No more silence. No more secrets.
bottomofthepit
New Registrant
Hey everyone, I'm new to the site and just wanted to say a (not so) quick hi
It's a bit hard to find support groups like this where I am in NZ so I really appreciate you guys accepting me on here and all the support you provide to everyone.
*deep breath*
The reason why this all started and why I'm here is from a mental breakdown over a promotion at work a while ago compounded with the recent terrorist attacks we had in our city. The overwhelming anxiety and fear started to pull up some very deep emotions which at first I didnt understand until the memories themselves started to surface.
Turns out, I cant just simply block out and bottle up 6 years of sexual and emotional abuse. It's just not possible. As I get older I'm starting to realise the abuses ugly after effects are now growing into all my thoughts and they are spreading and infecting everything like an emotional pernicious weed.
As I started to recall on my abuse, more and more older memories come up. The whole thing was almost like it was perfectly set up. Me, a lonely abandoned boy, adopted at 3 by other relatives to live in a nice new country. I was new, alone and ready to cling on any friendly, loving and supportive person I could meet which led me right into the arms of my abuser.
My abuser was my uncle. He had previously served a jail term for abuse of a young girl in a previous marriage. He had also been abused by his father as a boy and due to his offences being public, he had no friends. He didnt have alot of things going for him but what he did have was his charisma. That charisma was what won over not only my parents, but me as well.
My parents didnt think much of his previous offences and since his last victim was a girl, they though it should be all ok. It wouldn't be. By the time I was 6, my uncle had gained all my trust and became my best (and only) friend. He had found the perfect a opportunity to start what would be a 6 year hidden relationship with me to the point that I (rather naively) thought that he actually loved me.
I will do a post latter on the survivors forum once I've had a chance to write down my story and gather all my thoughts. I feel a bit like Bran on Game of Thrones with all these jumbled memories I've just gained.
So what is happening now?
Well I took my first step and booked my first therapist appointment for next week. From what I've read from others, I imagine this will be a long and arduous healing process.
So thats why I'm here. I just want to reach out to anyone out there who have been through what I've been though. I have kept all his secrects for this long and now I dont want to keep them anymore. Living far away is hard to meet people so if there is anyone out there who is in my area please flick me a message, or just anyone who wants to talk.
Thanks again for being here. You truely dont know how much it means.
- From lonest guy on the lonest islands at the bottom of the world.
It's a bit hard to find support groups like this where I am in NZ so I really appreciate you guys accepting me on here and all the support you provide to everyone.
*deep breath*
The reason why this all started and why I'm here is from a mental breakdown over a promotion at work a while ago compounded with the recent terrorist attacks we had in our city. The overwhelming anxiety and fear started to pull up some very deep emotions which at first I didnt understand until the memories themselves started to surface.
Turns out, I cant just simply block out and bottle up 6 years of sexual and emotional abuse. It's just not possible. As I get older I'm starting to realise the abuses ugly after effects are now growing into all my thoughts and they are spreading and infecting everything like an emotional pernicious weed.
As I started to recall on my abuse, more and more older memories come up. The whole thing was almost like it was perfectly set up. Me, a lonely abandoned boy, adopted at 3 by other relatives to live in a nice new country. I was new, alone and ready to cling on any friendly, loving and supportive person I could meet which led me right into the arms of my abuser.
My abuser was my uncle. He had previously served a jail term for abuse of a young girl in a previous marriage. He had also been abused by his father as a boy and due to his offences being public, he had no friends. He didnt have alot of things going for him but what he did have was his charisma. That charisma was what won over not only my parents, but me as well.
My parents didnt think much of his previous offences and since his last victim was a girl, they though it should be all ok. It wouldn't be. By the time I was 6, my uncle had gained all my trust and became my best (and only) friend. He had found the perfect a opportunity to start what would be a 6 year hidden relationship with me to the point that I (rather naively) thought that he actually loved me.
I will do a post latter on the survivors forum once I've had a chance to write down my story and gather all my thoughts. I feel a bit like Bran on Game of Thrones with all these jumbled memories I've just gained.
So what is happening now?
Well I took my first step and booked my first therapist appointment for next week. From what I've read from others, I imagine this will be a long and arduous healing process.
So thats why I'm here. I just want to reach out to anyone out there who have been through what I've been though. I have kept all his secrects for this long and now I dont want to keep them anymore. Living far away is hard to meet people so if there is anyone out there who is in my area please flick me a message, or just anyone who wants to talk.
Thanks again for being here. You truely dont know how much it means.
- From lonest guy on the lonest islands at the bottom of the world.
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