Nightmares anyone

Nightmares anyone
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reality2k4

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I had a nightmare last night, which is significant of my mind not being grounded yet.

I used to discuss these nightmares with my girlfriend, but this one is so odd to me.

It was like I knew where I was going, but every time I made a step towards where I was going, I was going in the opposite direction.

The dream as I remember, was like walking up a ladder, and ending up at the bottom, or trying to get to work, in a semi familiar surrounding, and ending up not getting there in time to clock thru.

A lot of my dream seemed to focus on some spiral of being in surrounding familiar territory, and yet not getting anywhere but further from where I was going.

I do not have dreams normally, but family denial has been a big issue of late, and I can only think that this has some bearing on this dream.

From escaping on a knotted rope from a window, to missing trains departing on an opposite platform, and seemingly going in the right direction, and starting over again in some place I did not know.

I was looking for directions, but kept going back to a start point, and reliving it over and over.

I awoke at 4 AM, as I do when I experience sleep probs.

Anyone have any experience of working with dreams/nightmares?

I dont get fazed by nightmares, but would love to have a dream sometime, I am sure this is not impossible for me.

I would just like to have a happy dream where the little boy was not terrified and scared so much, I so much wish this for myself and every guy here,

ste
 
Hey ste,

It must have been the night for nightmares last night! I've not had any in a while now. I went through a spell a while back where I was having them every night.

Last night it was getting 2 fingers on my left hand cut off again and again. The thing kept repeating and I kept hoping it would end differently. When I finally woke up I had to hold the fingers in question with my other hand in order to be able to go back to sleep.

Makes me wonder what's going on. Why now when things are going so well for me? What's changed? I'm not going to spend a lot of time trying to analyze it. Just makes me wonder.

Back when it was happening all the time, I figured they were caused by issues yet unfaced that were fighting their way to the surface. Guess I better start looking around again for the other shoe to drop :)

I hope it gets better for you, friend.

John
 
ste,

Me too, I haven't worked in a lumber mill in about 9 or 10 years, but I was changing the knives in the planer, this particular planer has heads with14 knives; each knife is 28 inches long, and I never could get the job finished, a half hour should have been plenty of time. I spent hours and hours, the crew came in to work and I still wasn't done, they were all waiting for me to get finished so they could go to work. Standing around drinking coffee and telling dirty jokes they were. kept having to go back to the grinding room to get another set of knives, never could figure out where the ones I had put in had gone. Kept cutting my fingers on those sharp knives too! I'd still be there fighting with that ten ton hunk of iron had not my alarm gone off. Oh yes, I'm a nurse now. Thank God for alarm clocks.

I think I know what it means too. It means that I had to go to work today all tired and it also means that there is something in my life I need to work on. I think I know what it is too, but Im scared, so I must pluck up the courage and just do it. I will start it tonight.
 
Dreams are the way our subconscious is trying to help us, guide us and show us where we are stuck.

Though sometimes it just might be a housecleaning dream where you are reliving a past trauma just so that you can let go of it, especially if you are not able to let go in real life. Mind has to clear itself up anyway, even if you are not a willing parter.

But then we can be a willing partner, cant we? Especially when it is for our own good.

So first I would suggest keep a dream diary by your bed side, as soon as you wake write it all down before it fades away.

Gradually as you keep focussing on them they would get clearer and you would see clear patterns in your dreams, which are metaphors for your life, feeling trapped, feeling cut-off, missed opportunties, or just plain disgust at lack of support.

So keep working they can make your healing work much faster and fun. Now when ever I am stuck, I ask please show it to me in a dream, that way I also save my self from going thru an entire life situation to learn that very thing.

Today, I am so grateful for my dreams.
 
Dreams can be a very powerful thing

I can still very clearly remember a dream from when I was only about 6 years old - I was looking for salt and pepper shakers (yes, I know how silly that sounds) and could'nt find them - in the dream I totaly tore the whole house apart looking for the salt and pepper shakers - when I finaly woke from the dream I'd totaly torn my bedding apart and was sweating profusely - I was in a total state of panic and did not sleep the rest of that night (btw- the salt and pepper shakers where never actualy missing)

Took me many years to understand that dream and why I was in so much of a panic - for me it was'nt so much that the salt and pepper shakers could'nt be found - it was that I was deathly afraid of what mom would do to me when she found them missing... (mom was not even in the dream - yet she was the true cause of fear in the dream - ie, the hidden message in the dream)

I hope that your dream will make sense to you in time...

TJ jeff
 
Ste,

Here is one that I had repeatedly when I was a boy AFTER the abuse ended. Then it stopped, only to return once I was coming out of denial. I still have this dream from time to time.

In the dream I am in a meadow with other boys. I cannot see their faces clearly and we are not really interacting with one another. There is a large hole in the meadow, something like a big rabbit hole, with a ladder going down into it. The boys are gathering around the hole and one by one descending the ladder. I join them and start down into the hole. It's dark and I cannot see clearly, but I can hear a rumbling sound from below somewhere. Gradually my eyes adjust to the dark and I can see that at the bottom of the hole the other boys who have gone before me are lying around in various terrible contorted positions. The rumbling is coming from a kind of machine that is moving around in the gloom. I become terrified and try to go back up the ladder, but other boys above me are still moving down and forcing me down with them. I am screaming for them to stop and trying to tell them of the danger below us, but no one hears me. As I struggle to climb up I fall off the ladder and am plunging down into the dark. That's when I wake up.

My T and I discussed this and she helped me to see this is about my abuse experience - big surprise. The machine is my abuser, and the other boys are in the dream due to me feeling tricked and betrayed and wondering how many others he had hurt. And so on.

She told me, Ste, that dreaming of things like being stuck on a ladder, or running forward but falling back, etc., have to do with feelings of being lost and powerless.

When I was an older teenager I also had dreams (not nightmares) that revolved around me performing various sexual acts with my friends. That always shocked me because I never really wanted to do that and the situation never arose. But my T again had an explanation. That was me at age 15 and 16 wondering is this really all I am good for - as a thing useful only for gratifying someone else sexually. It was also me wondering could anyone really like me if there wasn't sex involved.

Hope this helps. Dreams can certainly be strange sometimes. It just goes to show what the mind is capable of when it has nothing else to do at night but rummage around and find something to explore. It can dig up important stuff that we really don't want to go into yet.

Much love,
Larry
 
Thanks to all the replies and interesting too, but hey Larry your T is spot on;

She told me, Ste, that dreaming of things like being stuck on a ladder, or running forward but falling back, etc., have to do with feelings of being lost and powerless.
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That is it Exactly!

Interestingly, I talk about nightmares as dreams, as they are not so threatening as they were when I was young.

This "dream", is almost exactly the same theme that my earlier nightmares were as a young boy.

When I was an older teenager I also had dreams (not nightmares) that revolved around me performing various sexual acts with my friends. That always shocked me because I never really wanted to do that and the situation never arose. But my T again had an explanation. That was me at age 15 and 16 wondering is this really all I am good for - as a thing useful only for gratifying someone else sexually. It was also me wondering could anyone really like me if there wasn't sex involved.
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From 11 onwards, I always thought that friendships had to be of a sexual nature, which led to a whole load of confusion.

Even looking for friendship with the other boys sort of meant that I was looking to them for sex, which made me accutely embarrassed at the time.

Even now, I have the remnance of those thoughts but not too deep any more, but, it is all the make up of conditioning of past events.

Thank you all for the feedback, because it is not easy for me to make sense of these dreams, even if they are not so frequent. :eek:

Thanks again,

ste
 
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