nightmares and switching places
nightmares and switching places
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Hauser
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Hi again Kuurt. My first thought about what you're going through (nightmares) is that it is what happens to some people as a result of abuse in thier past, and that your Dad being in the picture was simply a nuance that made it's way in.
I'm sure you've had other dreams where somebody or something you easily recognize was there but made no sense, right? You're NOT perverted.
I'm sure you've had other dreams where somebody or something you easily recognize was there but made no sense, right? You're NOT perverted.
Ive had some pretty wack nightmares.....
Like the one where my perp(father) was a fucking big spider. No abuse, he was just going to scare me.
Or the one where I came into my own dream as a ghost, that really freaked me out.
Kuurt our subconscious is really hard to fathom, even my therapist told me that. He actually said not to try and understand my dreams as it would twist my head more.
Dreams are dreams, dont forget that. Good and bad!!
Peace my friend, speak soon. (Or chat!!)
Like the one where my perp(father) was a fucking big spider. No abuse, he was just going to scare me.
Or the one where I came into my own dream as a ghost, that really freaked me out.
Kuurt our subconscious is really hard to fathom, even my therapist told me that. He actually said not to try and understand my dreams as it would twist my head more.
Dreams are dreams, dont forget that. Good and bad!!
Peace my friend, speak soon. (Or chat!!)
Kuurt,
Having dreams like the one you describe are not a sign of any kind of perversion on your part. Period.
Ya, they can really wierd a guy out for a while. Don't let it get to you tho, friend.
Many of the men here experience or have experienced nightmares of varying severity and frequency. These dreams can be a signal that the person has unresolved trauma he needs help in understanding. I have such dreams on the rare occasion now. I have developed skills over a couple years of counseling on how to determine the appropriate way to face such dreams and whether they really should be given any weight.
you probably shouldn't be too hard on youself as to why you were "thinking like that". Bottom line is that you weren't "thinking like that" The subconcious mind goes places that have no rhyme nor reason. I've had dreams of doing horrible things, but I'm just not that kind of person that would do those things in real life.
I want to leave you with the following quote one of the brothers here said to me the first time I posted here.
Safe hugs,
John
Having dreams like the one you describe are not a sign of any kind of perversion on your part. Period.
Ya, they can really wierd a guy out for a while. Don't let it get to you tho, friend.
Many of the men here experience or have experienced nightmares of varying severity and frequency. These dreams can be a signal that the person has unresolved trauma he needs help in understanding. I have such dreams on the rare occasion now. I have developed skills over a couple years of counseling on how to determine the appropriate way to face such dreams and whether they really should be given any weight.
you probably shouldn't be too hard on youself as to why you were "thinking like that". Bottom line is that you weren't "thinking like that" The subconcious mind goes places that have no rhyme nor reason. I've had dreams of doing horrible things, but I'm just not that kind of person that would do those things in real life.
I want to leave you with the following quote one of the brothers here said to me the first time I posted here.
I want to reinforce to you that you are a great person, a special person, a valuable person with unique qualities, hopes, and dreams (no pun intended), and most importantly, a loveable person.
Safe hugs,
John
I've been told we are the writers, directors and actors in our dreams. Sometimes dreams or our interpretation of them give valuable insight or clues to our conflicts. Sometimes they are just our anxieties being played out. A did speak with a psychologist/friend once about a dream and the hardest thing for me to do was to place myself in each character and act out or express what they were feeling or doing. In the hands of a very skilled psychologist dream interpretation can be a valuable lesson or opportunity for insight. Then again, maybe it was Freud that said "sometimes a cigar is just a cigar"
Kuurt,
I am unsure how often dreams/nightmares occur as a result of the abuse but it seems reasonable that they happen. I remember as a kid having sexual dreams about my father. I did not understand them then and now they make more sense. Our fathers represent an authoritative figure. In my case my father did not abuse me but it was one of his friends that did. Since the abuse is about power the dreams that I had about my dad was really just symbolic for the unresolved trauma.
I went thru a span of time, about 2 years, where I had nightmare after nightmare on a regular basis. They scared the heck out of me. I dreamt quite frequently that I killed people. I would wake up at night from a dream extremely scared, but glad I had woken up.
Dreaming is all part of the process and is normal. You my friend are NOT perverted, you are healing.
Dominic
I am unsure how often dreams/nightmares occur as a result of the abuse but it seems reasonable that they happen. I remember as a kid having sexual dreams about my father. I did not understand them then and now they make more sense. Our fathers represent an authoritative figure. In my case my father did not abuse me but it was one of his friends that did. Since the abuse is about power the dreams that I had about my dad was really just symbolic for the unresolved trauma.
I went thru a span of time, about 2 years, where I had nightmare after nightmare on a regular basis. They scared the heck out of me. I dreamt quite frequently that I killed people. I would wake up at night from a dream extremely scared, but glad I had woken up.
Dreaming is all part of the process and is normal. You my friend are NOT perverted, you are healing.
Dominic
reality2k4
Registrant
Kuurt,
your nightmare can be explained pretty easy, and the other guys have largely done it for you.
Some of my nightmares did the same thing.
Your dad is a man, and you associate abuse with men, your dad could be the nicest guy on the planet, but your mind is associating all male figures as possibly abusive.
I used to think, that because my dad was a man, he could possibly do those things that happened to me.
If a man kicks your dog, the dog becomes scared of all men, not just the one who kicked him.
That is the analogy,
ste
your nightmare can be explained pretty easy, and the other guys have largely done it for you.
Some of my nightmares did the same thing.
Your dad is a man, and you associate abuse with men, your dad could be the nicest guy on the planet, but your mind is associating all male figures as possibly abusive.
I used to think, that because my dad was a man, he could possibly do those things that happened to me.
If a man kicks your dog, the dog becomes scared of all men, not just the one who kicked him.
That is the analogy,
ste
