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[Thunderstruck]

I am new here, only been here for a few days. I am very jumbled up inside. It takes a lot for me to post things about my life. I hate thinking about some (most)things that have to deal with the *b*s*, and that's bad, bc unfortunatley it seems to control most of my life. I have been a member of other forums before, but none that was all about guys, and that's different for me, but it's something i like and am thankful for. Please, just be patient with me,
Take care all
Ts

 

[outis]

TS,

It's hard to get the courage to come here and post something, isn't it? I found the site last fall, and didn't register till February. Still didn't post for another couple weeks.

I'm sorry that you have to look for ways to recover from sexual abuse. It's a terrible crime. I wish none of us ever endured it.

Coming here and saying what I need to say, without fear of being judged or ridiculed, has been a great help for me in the last several months. This site has literally been my "anti-suicide" medicine more than once.

There are so many wonderful people here helping each other. I get a sense of life with that kind of love when I come around here, and that gives me hope to continue, hope that I can have a better life of my own.

Don't rush yourself. Read the posts. Read the articles. There is such a wealth of good help here that it still amazes me.

If you don't have a therapist, you might notice that most of us do. There's a reason for that. It's extremely difficult, if it's possible at all, to get through the effects of childhood sexual abuse without therapy. It may be possible, but I don't think it would be possible for me. One of the articles is Ken Singer's "Consumer's Guide to Therapist Shopping." Check off the main page for the lists of articles.

I started a new hopeful chapter in my life last week in Minneapolis, thanks to the people of MaleSurvivor. I hope the kind of help that I've received here comes to you, too.

Thanks,

Joe

 

[Stephen_5]

TS,

This forum is very open and understanding. Any topic is fair game. Posting things about personal experiences is difficult to do. It exposes raw feelings but sometimes the hurt has to be exposed before you can start to heal.

I wouldn't be where I am today if I didn't find a good therapist that I could talk to, yell at, confess all and have him reassure me that I would make it through it all. We're all survivors here in various stages of our lives. Some are new some are old but we're all here because of what happened to us. We all seek the comfort of others who have been in a similar situation. We can all learn from each other and heal together.

I'm glad that you found this place. It's helped me and I hope I've helped others too. Take good care of yourself,

Steve

 

[Lloydy]

Thunderstruck
I'm glad you found us, this is a good site for guys who've been abused. There's great support and help here, and some fun - we're not afraid to laugh any more.

I hope you get as much from this place as I have.

Dave

 

[martin]

TS,

Welcome to MS and as the other guys have told you its a truly wonderful supportive place. Hope you can find the opportunity to make good use of this site.

It is a little different and unique in that it serves male survivors almost exclusively. Its a place to cure and revive your manhood among some very good people.

Welcome again and may peace and healing be yours,

Aaron

 

[Bill_1965]

Welcome TS,

I think you will find that you found a great group of guys when you found this site, I know I did. You are not alone, the feelings surrounding our SA does jumble us up inside until you can learn to understand and deal with them. Relax and explore the site and I think you'll find clarity about yourself. No rush to post, post when and if you are comfortable.

Bill

 

[BT]

TS,

I am glad you found us and I as well as everyone else here certainly understand the fear and reluctance of being too open.

Just take your time, do what you are comfortable with and get to know us. Take some time and read some old post's. That will help you get to know some of the guys here as well as see the ups and downs we all experience.

The greatest thing about this place is the care everyone has for each other and the understanding we have for each others journey.

When you are doing well you will be able to encourage and help others and when you are not doing so good, just let us know and we will do our best to help and encourage you.

My best advice, do not give up, do not quit. Not all that long ago, I just about gave up. I thought it was hopeless. While I have to give credit to a lot of good people who cared about me to pull me back up, I also give an incredable amount of thanks to malesurvivor and the guys here.

For it was here I learned I was not alone and that may be the single biggest turning point in my life.

You are not alone, welcome, and may you find everything you are searching for and then discover there is even more.

BT

 

[Mike Church]

Thunderstruck:

I cannot add to what the others have said so well. I do welcome you. You have just come across the greatest bunch of guys it has been my privilege to know. They are like brothers in the truest sense. As Dave says we even laugh at times with each other. so stick with us and welcome to the brotherhood.