New Therapist

[PhoenixRising]

I start with a new therapist. I am checking out 2. The first I have been told is competent but will not likely get down and dirty in the muck of trauma. The second has dealt with his own trauma and will get down and dirty.
I see the first one today. I am a people pleaser and can feel that I wont want to disappoint this guy by not going with him. I didnt cancel the appointment because I told myself I couldn't, but in truth I was trying to please. I am afraid I will go the "safe" route with an "unsafe" outcome. I need to be willing to walk through hell right now...no more accurately walk out of it.

 

[SmartShadow]

I started with a trama therapist and after two sesions a called to cancel because I had found a closer T. Truth is the second T was so much of a better fit. But the the first T was not happy to hear about my choice.

I had to learn the longer I waited to brake the news the worse it was for me.
It was never fun to disappoint someone but as I got better at it my life got better as well.

I was a precessional people pleaser and people loved it. That is until I failed them. And then I was always the cause of there problems.

So I started telling people they had problems I couldn't fix. I would be willing, if I was, to help with in reason. But in no way would I take on there problem.

People started to be more reasonable and I am still working on differentiating disappointment from rejection.

Peace brother,
Mike