New Level of Descent??

[mickie]

My BF has been extremely weird, distant for last several months. the descent is a level i have never seen in the 6 years I have known him. Not doing things he enjoys, eating or shopping; avoiding family system. Seriously work acholic and crashing afterwards. Only talks about non personal stuff. Stopped calling. Have been giving distance but still trying to stay in relationship. Saw by chance today. I swear if I had spoke he would not have known who I was. Never addressed my sibbling who he talks to all the time as if he forgot our names. Said I didn't have to worry about him.
I am, I do and I pray. Not sure what else to do or how I should feel. Has anyone else observe major change over a short period?
Have csa been exposed to some or a lot of triggers this year that perhaps those of us who are Not CSA are missing the impact? Too much media? Appreciate any and all comments/advice.

 

[Brokenhearted]

Mickie, yes, my husband's change happened fairly suddenly. It is easy now to look back and see when the onset was. A person who was sexually abused as a child can be triggered by *anything* so it doesn't have to be obvious. He may not have real memories of abuse but just bad feelings and want to distant himself and keep busy. He may not even know what is wrong either.

 

[mickie]

thanks Brokenhearted, I see your point. Do you or any others have thoughts about the transference (I think this is what I mean) between an abusive family system and, allowing yourself to be abused in the workplace?