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Hi, I'm Jon. I am still trying to get past abuse that I went through when I was 11 until I was 13. I'll be 21 next week. At first I wasn't sure about coming here, but after seeing that there is a forum specifically for gay survivors and after reading some of the posts here I've decided to give it a chance. I'm not really sure what else to say right now. I really don't have time to go into detail right now about what happened or how I've been affected by it, but maybe later.
 
Hi MHrules,

Welcome to the site. I have been visiting here for a couple of months and am finding it helpful, hope you do too.

Rustam
 
Hi MHRules,

Congratulations on taking another step towards overcoming the effects of sexual abuse. By coming here and posting you are making an important contribution to your recovery.

Please come and share as much or as little as feels comfortable for you to do. It has been important for me to proceed at my own pace and you get to decide what feels right for you.

It is so sad that men and boys like us are exploited and damaged by sexual abuse. What is even sadder is that we feel forced to keep it secret out of shame or a false sense of responsibility.

I know because I kept my abuse secret for more than 25 years---that's a long time!

Finding this place has been a wonderful thing in my life. Hope you will come back and find some of that wonderful help too.

Please feel free to ask any questions or to send private messages to me. I would be glad to get to know you more and help you anyway I can.

Regards,
 
Hi MH. I am sorry for the reason you are here but am glad that you have found us.

Each and every one of us, gay, straight and anywhere in between, is here for the same reason.

You will find absolutely no prejudice at all and that includes religion, race, sexual identity or anything else for that matter.

This is a safe place to be and to know that you are no longer alone.

MS is in support of Therapy and if you are looking for one you will find under the word survivors at the top "Find a Therapist"

I am certainly proud of you for taking the step of dealing with the SA at an early age. I hid it for 40years and it played havoc with my life.

Remember too that it was never your fault, shame or guilt.
 
Welcomwe MHR,

I can't add a lot to what these guys have already said, so welcome.

They really are a great group of guys.

Peace,

Marc
 
Welcome Jon -

This is a good place with really good people!

Kenn
 
MHrules - Welcome!! Thanks for speaking out! Everyone who speaks out and joins in affirms we are not alone!! Thanks for searching and NOT giving up!! We are here to support and help each other through our recoveries!!!

Howard
 
Welcome MH.
You've found a great source for support and lots of new friends that will tell you you're going to be OK.
Listen to them, they're right. :)

TBear Dave
 
Hey,

I just saw your message...good job on finding this site...this is something that really helped me (it seems so long ago when I found this site...I was about your age...now, I'm 26). Anyway, I hope it helps, and really good job. Remember, success isn't about never falling, but getting up everytime you do.

P.S. I don't know if this is too much for you right now, but here's an interesting site which helped give me some direction as I finally embraced my sexuality with my faith...

https://www.christianlesbians.com/congregations/
 
Thanks to everyone who replied. Sorry I haven't posted much. But like I said in my first post, I am considering talking about what happened. I just don't think I'm ready for that now. And I specifically wanted to thank abcd. Thanks for your concern about reconciling my homosexuality with my faith.
 
Hey MH,

I too am new here, and am also gay, but am much farther along in my life. Welcome!! I look forward to getting to know you and others here.

Mike
 
Hi Jon,

Yeah--no prob about the concern for your faith thing. That for me was a big step, and now I see how my faith actually requires me to stand up for how I was created...anyway, I don't want to pile things up on you as I said, but if you want, I do have some articles and stuff I've collected over the years (via correspondences with religious leaders or just my own research that have helped). That to me, was one of the hardest things, to reconcile my faith with my sexuality--particularly when I at first thought my abuse caused my sexuality!! Anyway, gotta run. Later.

P.S. Feel free to drop me a personal message if you want me to forward you stuff (I'm not always on this site, but if you send me a personal message I think it forwards an e-mail to me).
 
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