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Logan

Logan

hi everyone,
i found this site about 3 weeks ago. im not ready to tell my story yet and im not really sure what good can come from me doing so. it happend to me when i was 14, im now 21. I've been working in therapy for about 6 months now and have to say i've come a long way but i'm still sometimes nervous around him. He says i have a lot of trust issues but he wont tell me how they relate to my life--He is honest but he is not very informative of forthcoming. i guess i have to agree with him to some extent about the trust stuff. He is the first person i ever told but still really tough for me to talk about it.
has anyone worked for a long time in therapy? was is helpful? how long did it take?
thanks for listening
-Logan
 
Hi Logan... welcome! :)

I am pretty new here too, and also young; I am 23. I think it is great that there are young people here working through their problems instead of waiting until they are older. Stop by the chat room sometime! :)
 
Hi logan and welcome.
You are not alone here and neither am I. When I started my recovery work it was about 1975. Little was known about survivor issues and many in the business thought it was a figment of our imaginations, because that was what was taught.

I expect the healing process to take far less time today because of the wealth of information gleaned from your brave predecessors who have stepped forward.

I believe recovery is still a rough and rocky road, and I think it will always be that as each of us has our own journey to travel.

I'm going to dig up an old post started by LLOYDY that explores your question.

-------- be gentle with yourself
 
Welcome Logan.
has anyone worked for a long time in therapy? was is helpful? how long did it take?
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I am 62 and was 16 when it happened to me and 56 before I sought help. What I can tell you is it will take as long as necessary. Since coming here I have actually made huge progress because of the genuine warmth of your brothers here. We are all on the journey together. There will be bumps and set backs but you are on the right road. And you are never alone anymore. We are here for you; all of us. Together we will all heal in our own time and space.
Just a few tips. Be gentle with yourself and relax. Read the posts, join the chats, send the private mail and generally get invovled again at your pace. No one here will push you because this is a safe place for all of us.

I really admire you for starting your journey at a young age. You have a whole life to live and it is our goal here that all of us will have a fulfilling time of it.

I am sorry because of what brought you here but can assure you that you have found the right place.
Mike
 
Logan
welcome to MS, I guess none of us want to be here, but if we need some help, support and advice about our lives after SA then this is the place to be.
You'll find a great bunch of guys here with so much to offer, so stick around and get your share of support.

How long does it take, who knows ?
There are too many different things going on, different expectations and personalities to even guess.
But don't be put off, because every little bit of improvement is worth the effort of the healing process. And one day all the little bits add up to something truly worthwhile.

Dave
 
hi everyone,
i found this site about 3 weeks ago. im not ready to tell my story yet and im not really sure what good can come from me doing so. it happend to me when i was 14, im now 21.
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Welcome to MS Logan, and it's good to see yet another male survivor starting so young to work thru your CSA issues and work toward more & more healing & wholeness.

I've been working in therapy for about 6 months now and have to say i've come a long way but i'm still sometimes nervous around him ... has anyone worked for a long time in therapy? was is helpful? how long did it take?
thanks for listening
-Logan
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Logan, I was first abused about age 2, the last time I was about 11. I had only dim distant dots of memory about any of it, mostly body & feeling memories, until about 20 months ago; that's when I really started recovery.

Since I've been in therapy & psychiatry pretty regularly for about 13 years, this means it took about 11 years (with mainly 2 therapists, tho two more briefly before them) for abuse memories to surface & abuse recovery to start.

Of course we're all different and clearly you already have some abuse memories.

Just try to give yourself time, take it easy on yourself, and remember that as for anybody becoming healthy & living a vital life is a process--take it one day at a time.

Easier said than done (don't I know it) but good therapy sure helps. So does this site.

Take care Logan

Victor
 
LOGAN.....nice to meet you, sorry you are here....i envy your courage at such a young age...you should be very proud of yourself....rest assured the choice you have made will be beneficial in the long run, though very painful at times....stay strong....wow, that is so easy to say to you, but so hard for me to believe about myself....just do the best you can with trust, it takes time.....take care.....michael
 
Logan, welcome. You are not alone here. I like others found this sanctuary late in life. I am 58 was abused at a young age and couldn't face it until 3 years ago. As a result, my marriage is in terrible condition, we have been seperated for almost three years now. Had it not been for the people here and the wise words and support, I'm not sure what would have happened. There is no such thing as lucky when you are talking about Childhood Sexual Abuse there is however comfort in knowing that you are not alone, you are young, face your demons, stay strong and when your not, there are the people here to pick you up and be supportive. I have learned there is nothing that is stupid or too gross to talk about. Welcome
Bob
 
Logan,

Welcome, glad you found this site, and sorry that you had to come looking for it. It really is a good way to connect with other guys who've been through the same kinds of pain, and to share solutions for working through it.

I've only been posting here since Feb. of this year, only working on recovery since late last year, and the abuse that made this necessary for me was 25+ years ago. I'm glad to see that you're more courageous than I was at your age in facing up to the facts and starting to recover.

Keep coming back.

Joe
 
Hello Logan,

That is a neat name--a little tyke I think a lot of is also called Logan.

You have just embarked on therapy. It takes time to build trust with a therapist. It is a way we protect ourselves. There is no need for you to rush to tell us your story. You have told us that you are a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. It saddens us to know that you went through what we went through. I think you will find this a very safe place and feel that you are understood by all of us.

I have been in therapy for twice as long as you have been alive. Don't let that discourage you. I was a very anxious person after the abuse, I was depressed, crabby, always angry and very cynical and sarcastic. I had a lot to work on. Then around age 50 a therapist stated to ask questions and I told her I had been sexually abused. It was a couple of years after that that I met a therapist that jumped on the abuse and started to show me the connections between the abuse and the effects of it.

Since then, lots of good things have happened and I am getting to feel well now.

You are starting soon after the abuse. That will help you. Most of us were raped. That is a very embarassing thing to admit. But it is a fact and the guys here have usually been there and are very kind and affirming.

Take your time Logan. If you have questions, just ask them. Only a few of us are counslors or therapists--but we are all men who know the horror of being used sexually. We can share our experience with you.

Peace to you Logan.

Bob
 
Welcome to MS Logan. sorry you are here.
 
Hi Logan,

This is a place for healing that books and therapy and group can't provide. Those other things are great too and I recommend them all in addition to this site.

You will find people here who are like you in ways that will surprize you, and you will be amazed like most of us were to find out how much abuse has shaped your life up to this point.

I started healing almost 5 years ago, and although 4 1/2 of them were agonizing, the last 6 months have been remarkably easier than the last 33 years (especially the last 4 1/2) in dealing with the pain from the abuse. I found this place about 9 months ago and it is one of the things that has allowed me to overcome the dibiltating portion of the pain.

Its good you are starting young, I'm 37 and I can't imagine how much different my life would be if I stated recovering 20 years ago.

Stick with this place and don't be discouraged by the politically incorrect conversations, or occasional differences of oppinion necessary for healing.

Peace
MO Healing
 
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