New Here and would like to share my story...

[Brayton]

Andrew,

I guess I have to agree with you that if there are family members who do not want to know the truth then there is little value in telling them and probably some harm in that their denial may undermine the efforts of those who want to be aware of what was/is happening in their family and be supportive either as a family or, singly, as a family member.

Being myself in a family comprised of people who do not want to know and whose denial undermines my recovery as much as it possibly can, I am especially peeved by families that are, after all, chiefly biological units and that make themselves unavailable for emotional support when the sh-t hits the fan.

Brett

 

[RICK57]

This is a difficult one - when I was abused I was just turned 12 & the paedophile was 30+. National press didn't mention these perverts & I had no understanding that they existed. We had no sex education (1968/9)and I didn't even know what sex was (playground discussions didn't really illuminate the subject as people got pregnant by kissing / going to the swimming baths then). Your abuser was a year older than I was when I was abused - would he know fully what he was doing / was it something done to him that he was repeating. I am sorry that I ask out of ignorance - I don't doubt your hurt/pain, particularly when the abuser was someone that should have been looking after you. If he was ignorant, then try to forgive in this situation, if however he knew exactly what he was doing, then the situation is a little more fraught. Please realise that 13 year olds do not have the frame of reference that an adult would have.

Please look after yourself - I do not wish to indicate what your situation was, you were there - I and the others on this site were not.