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[Judith]

HI

Not sure how to write this

My experience with guys who have been abused by mothers appear to have it worse than ones by fathers.
IT seems that the ones who have been hurt by fathers are able to open up easier to a woman vs the one who has been hurt by a woman who struggles to open up to a woman

I was/ talk to a guy that had been abused by women and couldnt open up to me about not only his pain etc but also just to let me talk to him and listen etc. He dealt with it on his own when he needed to let me "help" him.

Mainly to the males but Women you can respond.

For those of you who were wounded by your mother was that worse did you have a hard time talk to a female because of it?

Those of you who were hurt by your father was it easy to open up to a female friend etc?

Judith

 

[Esposa]

I don't know about "worse" as all things are relative and I hesitate to ever compare experiences but I do have something to say on the topic from personal experience.

My husband was hurt and abused by his mother and I will say that there is an undercurrent of distrust of women in general that he carries with him day to day. It is often, in moments of no consciousness, that he has acted out some of that residual aggression on me.

 

[journey4two]

Sometimes it isn't the parents who are involved in the abuse, but what they neglected to do after it happened. Sometimes the parents don't find out until years later. I think the answer is that it is just plain tragic no matter what the individual story.