I’m new but I’m well into a lot of work on my abuse. I was molested from around 2 to 4 by a great uncle. Lots of stuff there. But tonight - here’s what I need to know: father died at 14 (good relationship with him) and drinking by 15 and by 16 I’m being groomed and lavished with attention by a guy my age. In time, lots of drinking and he eventually comes on to me - I freeze. He them orchestrated my life for his sexual please for several years. I didn’t know it then but a master manipulator and predator - that was 40 years and it haunts me - he abused me and I always said it was OK but I know it was not. It destroyed me, was I abused by him?