need help for my son

I found out a few years ago my son was sexually abused when he was 11 or 12, he is now 34. He had kind of a breakdown a few years ago when he told his wife and my husband and I, of the abuse. His wife had a affair, at that time, because of my sons behavior, they got back together after several months. I just found out that he had been calling her every name under the son, for what she had done. Now its 3 years later and my daughter-in-law found out he has had several affairs, I don't understand why he would call her all through names when he had done worse than her. He has desided that he wants to make his marriage work and is going to get counciling and start taking anti depressents, for his depression. The person who molested him has ruined I don't know how many lives, I know there was more than my son. The guy married a friend of mine that had 4 little boys, and was a boy scout leader. Where does my son look for the kind of counseling he needs? Is there anyone who could give me an answer on why he would call his wife such awful names? My son has started to pick up some information on molestation and can see that he has all the problem he is reading about, I think it helps a little to be able see others have gone through the same thing . I would really appriciate it if any one could give some answers. Thank You weewillie

[ 08-10-2001: Message edited by: weewillie ]

[ 08-10-2001: Message edited by: weewillie ]