My wife abused me

[Josh26]

Hello,
It’s very hard to open. Can a man cry? It’s hard to live by all the stereotypes about man.

I married only once and never want to again. We were in love before marriage. I knew she had a strong character. That’s what I liked in her. But after marriage she stated to rule over my life. I was choked with her. Often we quarreled. She didn’t mind hitting me to win her argument. But later she comes with hug and console. A few times situations got out of hand when she hit me with a rod. I suffered a minor injury, but I reported it as an accident. How can a man say he was hit by his lady? Soon, I went into depression. But, she never stopped harassing me. One day, when she was away, I left home and opened up this to a friend. After much persuasion, he took me to a criminal defence lawyers firm to file a suit against her, for domestic violence. She was conditionally discharged by peace bond. I was able to get divorce after a year.

Now my life isn’t normal. I go into severe mood swings occasionally. I lost the fire inside me.

 

[dark empathy]

Hi Josh and welcome.

Nope, wwhat your wife did was no more right for her being a woman, and it was abuse. The idiocy that a man cannot be abused and that women are free to be violent is utter crap, and worse it's crap that some women use to their advantage.

I really hope being here helps. Your certainly not alone in this by any stretch of the imagination, though I'm glad your friend is good enough to see this, good friends are really valuable especially in recovery.

 

[Josh26]

Yeah, he helped me then and he is helping me now to recover from depression. On weekends he takes me to different places to help me see and remember the life I had before.

I'm glad to be here.

 

[redrock]

Welcome Josh to MS.

I am new too. I haven't had anything to do with women for over 25 years and I understand where you are coming from. It has been only recently that I have allowed the feelings and memories to surface. I buried the stuff for decades.

I am glad your able to talk about the abuse and recognize it as such.

It is ok to "find" yourself.

RR.

 

[woodenshoes]

Josh26

We understand the feelings you are experiencing. Sorry about how your feeling. You will find a lot of understanding people here. Josh take care.

Ws

 

[learning2remember]

Josh26,

Your story is not the same as mine, but I know that you are not alone. When I was feeling like the only man in the world abused by his mother, I found a support group for abused men at the YWCA of all places (yes, the Young WOMEN'S Christian Association). In that group was a man abused by his wife.

Even if our stories are not the same, we hurt together.

I'm glad you are able to take steps towards healing.

 

[LinEar]

You can cry. It's okay, and healthy to release it.

 

[Josh26]

Thanks for all your support.

 

[focusedbody]

Josh26:

Thanks for your post.

It reminded me of an incident I had with a girl friend.

I have never been sure of how it came to be, but have some ideas.

In any case, the escalation to physical violence is something to slowly come to grips with.

I hope you will remain curious even in the face of feeling scared.

My very best to you. May you continue to seek and experience kindness.

FB