My uncles

My uncles
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Branson

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This last weekend being the holiday was very painful for me. I had to make the choice to go and lie again or not. And I didn't go. People here said I did the right thing. But my uncles have screwed it all up. Phil looks at me like nothing happened and Henry almost dares me to tell.

I tried once. A few years ago. My folks looked at me as if I was telling a tall tale.

No, I can't do anything to them about what they did to me. My boyfriend wants to confront them himself, but I don't want that. I don't even know what I want. The only thing I know is that I get sick when I see them.

I don't know what to do.

Branson
 
Take care of yourself, that's what you do. They don't matter. If you don't like being around them, don't be around them. If you don't feel like telling anyone why, don't.

If your folks aren't receptive, it's not your problem. If it would help you to tell them about it, tell them. Their reaction is irrelevant.

If you want to confront the uncles, do it (safely). Their reaction is also irrelevant.

It's all about you. Take care of you. Be with the ones you love, leave the rest in the dust.
 
Yes, what he said. Do what you need to do, what you want to do, and look after yourself first. Leave the rest behind.

Aden
 
I think that anytime a child is abused, an adult other than the abuser is aware and silent. Parents are often guilty of this crime.

When I told my mother I had been abused by my brother in law, she automaticaly replied " why did you not tell me? ", putting the responsibility right back to the child.
 
You do what feels right to you. There is not a test on this, there are no right answers. What is right for me is maybe not right for you, and vice verse.

There is no law you have to tell anyone. There is no rule that you must tell your other family, or other people you have relationships with. Sometime it can help, because it can increase the understanding in a relationship. I am sure you have seen that, as it seems your boyfriend knows of it, and seems supportive of you. But other relationships, it can cause even more tension. Only you can assess what you think will happen, and what is best for you.

Take good care of yourself, be patient with the process and yourself.

leosha
 
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