My husband's 1st therapy appt
Brokenhearted
Registrant
Hi all, I forgot to post on this...not much to say...but he went to the therapist Wed. I purposefully did not barage him with questions about it...want him to know he's in control of that and I don't need to know what they talked about.
I'm just glad he didn't say "Well, that was a waste of time." I did ask if he had another appt and he said "In 6 months" but I know he was just kidding w/ me. ALl my therapist told me when I asked her was that she's agreed to work individually w/ each of us for a while before suggesting a session together, so I take that to mean he does have another appt.
That night he volunteered that she said he needs a prescription to help him sleep since he has not slept hardly at all for 6 months. I didn't even ask if he intends to get one. He joked, "So did you call her?" And I said, "I don't need to know what y'all talk about."
His facade is so good that I doubt anything much of substance was said at the first appt. I even doubt that the big elephant, the abuse, came up. But she is skilled in CBT so I have no doubt that she knows how to "peel the onion" to get down to the core layers eventually.
I was hoping he'd come home in tears from it, tears of relief from talking about his abuse, but no. He went on back to work after his appt.
It is still very early for him, still he has not connected his abuse to his current troubles in our marriage or otherwise...
You all need to encourage me here b/c I desperately need for this therapy to "bring it out" for him ... I feel it will, I hope he will put aside his facade with the therapist eventually. I really wish I could be a fly on the wall though. I wonder if all he said was, "I can't sleep anymore." We have not had sex in 6 months so surely that will come out as well, and why......
Maybe just his asking for help with his sleeping problem alone is a big step for HIM in a way, asking for help for ANYTHING, so maybe it's the beginning of getting the help he needs for all the things that abuse has made wrong.
Any feedback is very welcome!
I'm just glad he didn't say "Well, that was a waste of time." I did ask if he had another appt and he said "In 6 months" but I know he was just kidding w/ me. ALl my therapist told me when I asked her was that she's agreed to work individually w/ each of us for a while before suggesting a session together, so I take that to mean he does have another appt.
That night he volunteered that she said he needs a prescription to help him sleep since he has not slept hardly at all for 6 months. I didn't even ask if he intends to get one. He joked, "So did you call her?" And I said, "I don't need to know what y'all talk about."
His facade is so good that I doubt anything much of substance was said at the first appt. I even doubt that the big elephant, the abuse, came up. But she is skilled in CBT so I have no doubt that she knows how to "peel the onion" to get down to the core layers eventually.
I was hoping he'd come home in tears from it, tears of relief from talking about his abuse, but no. He went on back to work after his appt.
It is still very early for him, still he has not connected his abuse to his current troubles in our marriage or otherwise...
You all need to encourage me here b/c I desperately need for this therapy to "bring it out" for him ... I feel it will, I hope he will put aside his facade with the therapist eventually. I really wish I could be a fly on the wall though. I wonder if all he said was, "I can't sleep anymore." We have not had sex in 6 months so surely that will come out as well, and why......
Maybe just his asking for help with his sleeping problem alone is a big step for HIM in a way, asking for help for ANYTHING, so maybe it's the beginning of getting the help he needs for all the things that abuse has made wrong.
Any feedback is very welcome!
