My Child Within?

[ScottyTodd]

I've read such great posts here about the child within - some little guy. I'm familiar with the term. I tried to read about the child within but but wind up intellectualizing the little guy. I've tried to get in touch with Little Scotty but can only see him from a distance but can't contact (touch, feel) the little guy.

In therapy I promised little Scotty to go canoeing - his favorite outdoors pasttime but never carried out the promise all summer long. Try as I may, I haven't fulfilled one plan, one promise or one goal I set to care for him. (BTW - I used to frequently promise my kids then fail to fulfill my promises).

Sometimes, I can do things (like go fishing) but it must be with others (never alone) and it must make sense (nothing really spontaneous). To take Little Scotty fishing, at first scares me! Then doesn't seem purpose enough - like I should be doing something for somebody else too!

I am having problems finding a therapist anywhere around me who does inner child work AND believe me I've looked.

Suggestions?

 

[Mike Church]

SCOTTYTODD:
I have posted elsewhere that I believe that what happened to us by these f**ken perps.roze the little guy in jail. And we maybe, for me really, acted unknowingly as the jail keeper. You say you have promised Little Scotty to take im fishing or whatever then you beat the big you up for procastination. Maybe the promises made were to big for you and overwhelming. You might want to start of with something that does not lead a lot of planning. CHY-WY went out to a great resaurant and had all the stuff to eat without regard for high cholerstol and had a ball doing it. That brother of ours can be an inspiration for us all. Not a big thing to do in the planning and execution. But a huge thing to accomplish for the big and little CHEY-WY. Ber gentle on yourself my brother.
Read the post on What i did for me and the little me inside. You know I really believe that fun can be infectious

 

[ecb]

I think mike hit the nail on the head with the fact that when we were abused our inner child was imprisoned within us. Certianly that is the case with me.

Unfortunately, I do not know how to tell you to make contact with yours. In my case, I wasn't even aware that I had hidden the little guy away. It took a friend of mine to point out that she had seen him emerge when I told her about the abuse. Only then did I even realize he was even there.

Since discovering him, I have no idea what to do, but my friend told me that I had been keeping him safe all these years, safe from the world and from the hurt that was inflicted upon me and him. And she was right.

When I finally found him, it wasn't so much as doing things specifically for him it was more letting him know (and thus myself) that what happened wasn't his fault, and that I would never ever lock him away again. In a way locking him away to keep him safe was just as damaging to him as the abuse had been.

I don't know if this helps you or not. I guess I'm just trying to say, start small. He's in there, but he's scared to come out. He will when he's ready.

Hope this helps.