MSAS - South Africa Non excisting

MSAS - South Africa Non excisting
Liam

Liam

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Male Sexual Abuse Survivors South Africa Non Excisting

Due to an expiring visa i were forced to return to South Africa. I left a good therapist behind thinking that i will find another in South Africa. Well it has been pretty hard. I had a list of only twelfe therapists in our region and none of them specialized with male issues arising from Childhood Sexual Abuse. I tried out three of our local libraries and found two books on sexual abuse written for and by women. A few weeks ago and article were pubished in a local magazine called "You" where a man shared his story of being raped by three women one night and various people were quoted saying its impossible for a man to get raped. The tradional cover up off these issues still plague South Africa. Since i came forward about my abuse even my family tries to deny it. My father even told me that my abuser were a good man. Being a police man he gained a lot of respect from the community. I am being told by so many that i have to go on since it is in the past but i werent even allowed to feel sorrow about it. To get angry about it to show anything. No, all i had to do were play the good boy. Put on a smile and act like everythings perfect. I even discussed with my parents the need for a councellor and they told me that i do not need one. Its over. Its the past. The past still haunts me then for i am having a hard time to let it all go. For a country thats so bold to broadcast soft porn movies on their national stations at night they sure are reserved when it comes to issues relating to male rape and childhood sexual abuse of boys!
 
I am sorry you are having these troubles. The people around me often tell me to just go on, and that stuff is in the past. Just remeber to do things for you, not to please others. Only your heart knows what you need, just listen to it.

Yes, there is a shortage of therapists equiped to deal with male SA. And there is very little published information about it. Just today in class, I was confronted by a female who said a man couldn't be raped by a woman. I argued till I was blue in the face. Some people just cannot get past their preconceptions of the world.

I say, shout it from the rooftops. It is time the world started recognizing us...
 
Liam, I wrote several paragraphs but then deleted it all (Ithink I just ranted and probably made no sence in my anger), but I want to say I'm ANGRY - for your sake.

I understand what pain you must be experiencing by being denied your right to feel pain and hurt from your very real past that affects your very real present.

I care, we care. Take care.
 
Liam,

Your mail box IS full. I have a suggestion for you, please clear out your mail box.

David
 
I under stand your frustrstion with finding a counslor that can relate to your problem . I have had to use a femail counslar because i cannot find a male sexual bbuse counslar . I do not think that she can begen to understand the trama of male rape. DO NOT STUFF IT INSIDE !! I did this for over 25 years it will just cause you to become more damaged .
Some times you have to push the issue to be heard . do not let people tell you how to feel
some times the best thing that you can do is thak to people . Try getting pastoral counsling . This list is a good place to find people that will understand your hurt and anger besause we have ben there . male rape is a real problem world wide and people need to know that this happens a lot .
Usulay it is a person that is in a possison of power that does thease crimes and people are afrade to speek up because they are scared ofthe person that did this .
 
Nice to have you back!!! How are you doing now? I have been wondering what has been happening with you.
 
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