Mother's Day Cards

Mother's Day Cards
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Ken Followell

Past President
Today I went to 3 stores to try and find a card for my mother. I hate doing that!! How do you find a card for the woman who did nothing while all your childhood you were being abused?

Happy Mothers Day to the woman who never saw anything. Thanks for never being there.

Cards like that just aren't written. How do you "honor" the woman who gave you birth, food and clothing, but never saw the horror you were being subjected to by her family. Sometimes I wish I could just walk away, but I can't do that. But neither can I continue to make believe that everything was wonderful.

Ken
 
Ken,

Buy the most beautiful blank card you can find and write this on the inside:

May you get everything you deserve on Mother's Day, and every day.
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Hey Ken,

I couldn't agree more with Don. I did the same thing for years. I bought a blank card and wrote what felt honest in the moment. That way you get to honor where you are in the moment without being dishonest about the reality of your horror. The name of the game is take good care of your self. She's lucky she still has any contact with you at all. That's her gift and an amazingly generous gift it is!

Taz
 
Thanks Ken for bringing up a subject true to my heart - my mother was the perp. I like Don's suggestion, gave me a laugh.
I'm sending my mother a letter, cc'd to the rest of the family memebers (I've also just posted it on the forum).

Cheers
 
Wow, that is a powerful thought. I have thought those things, sometime, inside me, of 'how could she not see'. I have even written my mother a long letter, never yet sent, regarding why did she stay with my father, why could she not question what happened. But I never thought of it in terms of mother's day cards before. It is not such big issue in our family, so I never really thought it. I hope that you get through the holiday not feeling too upset by it. Good luck.

leosha
 
Humorous cards, although difficult to find, do help. Although it still does not say what may need to be said, neither does it say what a wonderful mother you were. I guess I am happy with honoring the idea of mother even though my own did not provide what I needed.

Thank you all for your thoughts and comments.

Ken
 
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