Misconstrued understandings

Misconstrued understandings
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reality2k4

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Many times I see a topic here that totally goes out of control and turn into something completely different to the intention of the poster.

Yeah, I am too, guilty of this but I think these topics should not go that way, it just starts to become an argument instead of what the poster intended it to be.

Please keep to the intended topic and do not divert the intention of the author, if you have other strong feelings then start your own topic relating to what you feel.

I think you will agree of this point I am making, and I suppose it makes some sense,

ste
 
Many times I see a topic here that totally goes out of control and turn into something completely different to the intention of the poster.
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Hello ste:

I think I understand your point. For survivors, it can be frightening when things seem to go "out of control." But discussions are sometimes like that. And it doesn't mean it's an argument if people disagree. Give and take in conversation is how we learn from each other.

Also, please don't take offense but I suggest to the moderators that this post really should be moved to the Discussion Board Questions area. So you might wish to re-post this topic there. Don't you agree?

All the best,

Jasper
 
Hi Jasper, no I think it is really on topic for this forum, and it is so right.

I have seen so many topics hijacked and turned into a fracas, and some have done a lot of damage because the initial intention was not adhered to.

I am sorry, but we all need to address these issues here, and not for just ourselves but for others too.

Maybe another reason why I dont post so much here,

Peace,

ste
 
I agree, Ste. I think it's a matter of common courtesy as well. If someone doesn't want to stick to the topic that the original poster started, they should start their own topic. I know I become annoyed when it happens to me on this, and other, forums. It makes me feel insignficant because it conveys the message that my original topic was not worthy of carrying forward. Again, it's common courtesy.
 
I also see a well-thought out response that says three or four different things, and when someone does not want to deal with the truths it contains, picks ONE thing that is said by the person, argues that point, and totally ignores the other points made. We all can find things to support our own opinions, we can all find things that go against them. Do we really need to be so competitive here? Rather then just accepting that other people will have different opinions as strong as ours? That is part of personal respect. There are times when that is missing here, as people attempt to coerce others to share their own perhaps limited and flawed views. There is a person here, he and I have spoke some by PM, email, chat and messenger. There are some very fundamental feelings about life, healing, personal beliefs that we disagree on greatly. And we have argued those points with each other. But I respect that he has his opinions, and even if I think they are wrong, it is not for me to change them. He feels same of me. It is part of being adults, and respecting each other.

Leosha
 
Please keep to the intended topic and do not divert the intention of the author, if you have other strong feelings then start your own topic relating to what you feel.
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Ste,
I think it might be difficult, perhaps impossible, to curb, shape or edit how people respond to different posts. Postings trigger or illicit different responses in different people.
So I am not sure it is useful to suggest structuring things so that people are obliged to respond in a way that demands adherance to a set formula or consistency with subject theme started in a posting. And frankly, I don't believe that people deliberately hijack a posting.

I think you will agree of this point I am making, and I suppose it makes some sense,
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No, I don't agree but do respect your opinion.
Peace, Andrew
 
Hey, I have one parting shot here, and it seems you are misconstruing my initial post here, but I have to draw your attention to all of the posts that have been closed by the mods.

Yes it does make sense to me and others.
If you look at my postings, then I suppose they are not confrontational in any way.

I am only trying to say, that we have a duty of respect for the author of the post, and also the feelings of others here.

The thing that triggered this post is, that Scott died, and instead of it being a tribute to him, it turned into a fiasco.

I was conscious that his wife was reading this post, and I was just trying to protect her feelings at this early stage.

I am not going to go into so much detail here, but a family have lost their father, and this is a deep tragedy to go through for them.

Whilst I know your view on this issue, we are all different, but one thing we do know, that we have been to the lowest point in life, and maybe more than once.

We cannot know how much hurt is within another, and we can never assume it either.

We cannot judge another for their final action in life, we do not know all of the facts either.
We all have differing lives, we all function so differently in life, but sometimes we cannot see the hurt of another.

My mind is not mad at any of you, but as a kid, I thot that I would never even be here today, and that is a terrifying thought for a kid to think.

This post is aimed at stopping hurt, and moderating our own views.

If I was a dog, they would put me down,

ste
 
"If I was a dog, they would put me down,"

Not if I had anything to do with it!

Ste, I agree that many threads do wander off topic, and if they get out of hand then the Mod's will generally do something about it. But we're not here as thought police.

I moved the thoughts on suicide off onto another topic purely to keep the original thread on topic, but I also left the two replys there so that the continuity wasn't lost.

Dave
 
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