Medicb4

Medicb4
I'll hold Scott and his family in the light.

(its a quaker saying, its the same as holding them in my thoughts and prayers)
 
Nothing I can say will mean much - we care!!

Rik
 
May God take care of Scott's family, and may He welcome him home to the peace he deserves.

I didn't know him very well, but having cared for and lost two people here who are dear to me, one through suicide, well, this still hits hard.

Sometimes I wish the pain could be visited on those who caused these things in us one hundredfold. But they wouldn't care. They wouldn't understand.

I also wish, something I have to remind myself when the self-destructive thoughts hit me, that when someone comes close to doing this, no matter how much it may hurt at the time, that they know it will pass. Pain always passes. Death is forever. And even when you try to make it clear to your loved ones that they weren't the reasons you took the way out, they will ALWAYS blame themselves. They will always feel that hurt. That's something I will try NEVER to leave those who love me as a last memory.

I hope people learn from this sort of thing.

God, Scott, I'm sorry, my brother. I'm praying for you and your family. I know you've found your peace.

Peace and love,

Scot
 
I posted this on pandys.org, and feel it should be here also.
MedicB4/ Scott, was fairly new on malesurvivor.org, but most people took a liking to him right away. I think both me and Scott signed up on pandys.org on the same day. He started in posting to everyone, while I held back, that's just the way we are. I was surprised to find Scott on here, as I had not told anyone that I was coming over here. I did make sure that he knew that I was here also, and he accepted that.

After Finding out that he had passed away, I read his posts on both pandys.org and malesurvivor to try to understand why. Here is what I understand, he had a very bad type of SA which ended with his mom committing suicide and dieing in his arms. He was going through a very rough time in his own marriage. Also one of the last posts that he read and replied to was my story about how I was raped at knife point. My story is a very graphic story. Even though, I had the mods over at malesurvivor.org add extra warnings to the story, he read it anyway. Some how with all of this going on in his head at the sometime it was to much for him, and he took his own life.
I liked Scott, and will miss him. I hope he has found the peace he was seeking.

Take care,
Lostcowboy
 
Thanks for sharing that information. It gives more insight into Scott's suicide. For that reason, it is very helpful.

Way back when, I was a volunteer suicide prevention counselor. I remember that a person who lost an immediate family member to suicide is at very high risk for suicide. Just based on the statistics.

Also, I wonder if there is a "suicidologist" looking into his background. I believe this is a person who often works for the coroner's office and tries to gather as much information as possible to see what drove the person to take his or her life. This may include such things as reading personal journals, interviewing friends, etc. The idea is that if the suicidologist can get an idea what pushed someone over the edge, maybe it can be prevented in the future.

Again, thanks for the information.

Jasper
 
LC, I never talk about kn*ves here, because they are big triggers, and sometime back, a person wrote a post with big triggers, so I got a mod to put triggers on it.

It is not for any of us to reason why somebody chooses exit, but we should just embrace the good thoughts of the person.

Suicide is far too common in all cultures, but nobody listens to the messages, or listens and learns from past events.

When society turns away from basic human instincts, then it starts to lose itself to some projection of peer forces.

Society should listen and care, and to project an image of wanting to find answers to the deep and profound problems, that it forms within itself,

ste
 
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