maybe helpful link
Hi Guys,
I was talking with my therapist a few weeks ago about the ADD symptoms I have, and how to get over always running from thing to thing or project to project. My post abuse life has been filled with starting and stopping virtually everything.
I'm guessing I'm not alone in this.
She suggested the following:
https://www.npr.org/blogs/thesalt/2014/08/11/338850091/for-a-more-ordered-life-organize-like-a-chef
It's an NPR story about how chef's organize their spaces and lives.
At first I was dubious, but I started following the suggestion that in order to live efficiently, everything needs to be in its place and ready for use. I started slowly getting my horribly messy house clean (first) and then in order, noticing everything and consciously deciding where it should go or whether it should be kept.
This activity, taken as a therapy device, started to become a kind of meditation. No OCD (thankfully), just quiet reflection on how things got so out of order in my life (without the censor yelling at me).
I started to see that the disorder in my place was a reflection of the disorder in my mind, and as the place gets better and better and consistently so, I find myself getting quieter deep inside somewhere. It is like cleaning and ordering starts to feel like taking control of a life that has always been on the verge of collapse.
I just kept at it, bit by bit, and wonderfully I feel like gradually the order of the house is starting to find its way into the daily business. It's easier to find time to work out, for example, because that's like putting my body into order. I had used to find schedules almost impossible to follow, I guess because I didn't want to be controlled (as I was by the abuse). This is letting me feel safer in controlling myself.
I"m starting to think the disorder of the ADD is a symptom of running away from the world because of the abuse. I get up the energy to start something, then I run from it. Then I start something else, and I run again. It could be relationships, career stuff, etc. The pattern is everywhere.
Anyway, it's been useful, so I thought I'd share.
Danny
I was talking with my therapist a few weeks ago about the ADD symptoms I have, and how to get over always running from thing to thing or project to project. My post abuse life has been filled with starting and stopping virtually everything.
I'm guessing I'm not alone in this.
She suggested the following:
https://www.npr.org/blogs/thesalt/2014/08/11/338850091/for-a-more-ordered-life-organize-like-a-chef
It's an NPR story about how chef's organize their spaces and lives.
At first I was dubious, but I started following the suggestion that in order to live efficiently, everything needs to be in its place and ready for use. I started slowly getting my horribly messy house clean (first) and then in order, noticing everything and consciously deciding where it should go or whether it should be kept.
This activity, taken as a therapy device, started to become a kind of meditation. No OCD (thankfully), just quiet reflection on how things got so out of order in my life (without the censor yelling at me).
I started to see that the disorder in my place was a reflection of the disorder in my mind, and as the place gets better and better and consistently so, I find myself getting quieter deep inside somewhere. It is like cleaning and ordering starts to feel like taking control of a life that has always been on the verge of collapse.
I just kept at it, bit by bit, and wonderfully I feel like gradually the order of the house is starting to find its way into the daily business. It's easier to find time to work out, for example, because that's like putting my body into order. I had used to find schedules almost impossible to follow, I guess because I didn't want to be controlled (as I was by the abuse). This is letting me feel safer in controlling myself.
I"m starting to think the disorder of the ADD is a symptom of running away from the world because of the abuse. I get up the energy to start something, then I run from it. Then I start something else, and I run again. It could be relationships, career stuff, etc. The pattern is everywhere.
Anyway, it's been useful, so I thought I'd share.
Danny
