Looking at penis's on the Internet, magazines etc and dealing with the shame it causes, possible triggers

Looking at penis's on the Internet, magazines etc and dealing with the shame it causes, possible triggers
ThePeaceLoverMan said:
I totally understand this. I feel like I’m going through the same thing. Thank you for posting this. I’ve always considered myself straight. Now I’m questioning why physically I get aroused however woman I am attracted to emotionally.
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Your welcome.
I going to check out the doug carpenter book.
 
van2500 said:
ODAT
I don't know what you mean by the ( templates ) but I went through 6 plus years of csa while being shown explicit content starting around age 11
So I know the decades of compulsive p use and ming really messed me up.
I think at least for me why we get shame when viewing things is because of what we went through and subconsciously attracted to certain things, but our spirit is trying to keep us on a healthier path
Currently, I am trying to reset my brain for a better life.
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The arousal template means that your first sexual experiences or exposure which in this case is to men get imprinted on your brain through a combination of fear, arousal, etc. and that gets stamped or imprinted in your brain. So it is not uncommon in your case that you would get aroused by seeing images of men. You may be totally heterosexual, which is your erotic template. I think the Doug Carpenter book could help you a lot. Take care, Rich-
 
ODAT said:
The arousal template means that your first sexual experiences or exposure which in this case is to men get imprinted on your brain through a combination of fear, arousal, etc. and that gets stamped or imprinted in your brain. So it is not uncommon in your case that you would get aroused by seeing images of men. You may be totally heterosexual, which is your erotic template. I think the Doug Carpenter book could help you a lot. Take care, Rich-
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Thanks,
Might look into it
 
Forgive7777 said:
I'm now in a circle of understanding why my self started about 2 yrs ago getting into watching men ejaculate and mastebate I was ashamed of it but no I'm ok with it since I was programmed as a child learned into liking it isn't my fault it's the abuser and I will not act out with other men since I mentioned I'm ashamed of what i look at In the Internet since not in a disrespecting way... Not gay or into men I couldn't picture my self with another men it's just what I learned as a child and memories so it's sort of nostalgia feeling... Now I'm not going to sit and lie i had my encounter of male to.male action a few times when I was around the age of 16 to 19 with friends and family weird now that I'm a straight grown man...
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ODAT said:
The arousal template means that your first sexual experiences or exposure which in this case is to men get imprinted on your brain through a combination of fear, arousal, etc. and that gets stamped or imprinted in your brain. So it is not uncommon in your case that you would get aroused by seeing images of men. You may be totally heterosexual, which is your erotic template. I think the Doug Carpenter book could help you a lot. Take care, Rich-
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Thanks for sharing all of this- I find it very helpful, you describe much of my abuse- fear/ arousal etc. and it happened at a young age. For myself porn has never been a major issue although there have been times of viewing it. I did not understand why. I too will have to read the book you have mentioned. Take care.
 
ODAT said:
The arousal template means that your first sexual experiences or exposure which in this case is to men get imprinted on your brain through a combination of fear, arousal, etc. and that gets stamped or imprinted in your brain. So it is not uncommon in your case that you would get aroused by seeing images of men. You may be totally heterosexual, which is your erotic template. I think the Doug Carpenter book could help you a lot. Take care, Rich-
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ODAT
Just wondering if that book is on site, or if you have to access it from somewhere else?
 
GaD3! said:
Thanks for sharing all of this- I find it very helpful, you describe much of my abuse- fear/ arousal etc. and it happened at a young age. For myself porn has never been a major issue although there have been times of viewing it. I did not understand why. I too will have to read the book you have mentioned. Take care.
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The book is fantastic and explains so much!
 
van2500 said:
ODAT
Just wondering if that book is on site, or if you have to access it from somewhere else?
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I got mine on Amazon for my Kindle. I also bought the workbook (printed) through Amazon. You may be able to get both in print form through Amazon. Rich-
 
Macke said:
Ty for that support. I feel that society as a whole label's everything. I am married and have sex with my wife but I also like masturbating to a nice erect penis too. It's part of what I have experienced and honestly I am not ashamed at all. People say a women's body is beautiful and sensual and it is but there is something also to be said about a nice hard erect penis too. A nice shaved well groomed penis in my book ranks just as sexy as a nice shaved vagina!
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Yes it does
 
van2500 said:
Been intentionally staying away from worn lately which I am thankful for but at the same time alot of time when I look at my own genitals I have been getting a flash of off beat ideas or thoughts.
Have any other of you guys have similar experiences?
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Yes it does happen to me and I don't know why
 
Some1 said:
I ve only found this community yesterday and its amazing how common our lives are. @This is me i posted few minutes ago about something similar and then i caught up on this.

https://forum.malesurvivor.org/threads/admiring-myself-too-much.91262/

If you relate at all, feel free to contact me personally, reply on this post or on my post.
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can definitely relate to both of you as it pertains to having a clone of myself. (sometimes i am at a loss for all of the random things i've thought/fantasized about smh)
 
Hello Everyone.

I have been getting on well with excepting this is a part of my sexuality, I don't feel much shame when i look now and I can actually say I can appreciate a nice looking penis without feeling disgust.
I do wnder if my sexuality was always being curious about penises, such as looking at and admiring some of them and it was unlocked so to speak when the abuse happened somehow or if it was all because of the abuse, did the whole penis thing happen because of what happened?
I guess I might never know, I am not going to worry about to much but I'm curious to know.
 
I had this locked away for about 48 years. Knowing that I'm attracted to some men, not all, has been a part of my life for about the past 12 years. I am straight, happily married and completely at peace with this attraction.
 
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