Little Bro

[Spotted Giraffe]

Its hard to talk to everyone about this, but my little brother is disabled. He doesnt speak, write, read, he has a bit of cerebal palsy and suffers from developmental delay. So he doesnt understand a whole lot.

My dad doesnt know how to handle it and bashes him up. My brothers dont seem to know it happens even when its right in front of their faces. Mum is starting to talk about it, she hates it too.
My little bro is only home on weekends and holidays so people say that it probably wouldnt happen anymore (if it did before) but it DOES.

Then theres my mum, she touches him where she shouldnt and other stuff like that (you dont wanna know) I dont know why she does it and a lot of the stuff ppl say is just caring for him, eg. she has to feel his butt to check his nappy (maybe, but not for like FIVE MINUTES)
i dont know if she knows she is hurting him.

She was abused as a kid but she thinks it didnt matter and that it doesnt affect her.
I know that it affected her cuz shes a mess, but no one else can see that cuz she pretends to be ok to them. She talks to me and expects me to always make her feel better and give her answers.
she did stuff to me when i was little but ppl think thats ok too. Its confusing. I dont want anything else happening to my little bro, I've had enough and sometimes just want to kill mum and dad. I've thought of ways to do it, i guess thats not the answer, but if anyone has any on ideas that would be great.
Thanks for listening

 

[PAS]

Hi - This sounds like a very serious issue. The best approach I can recommend is to is run, not walk, to the police or your local Childrens' Aid Society, tell them what is going on, and let them handle it. What is happening to your brother is assault, and it is AGAINST THE LAW. Dont confront your parents yourself - you may put yourself in harm's way.

As far as being found out for "telling" - I think that in most jurisdictions the police or the childrens' aid would keep your identity a secret so you dont have to worry about being found out as the "snitch".

Good luck and keep us posted?

 

[Spotted Giraffe]

I've already tried the appropriate agencies. Theres nothing they can do cuz they cant get any substantial evidence, and even if dad and/or mum was prosecuted then he would still have to live there because there is no where else for him to go.

And also with the evidence thing i cant remember specific incidents for long after they happen. I remember trying to make a list in my head of the stuff that happened and i remember what those things were but i cant remember seeing it. I guess the other thing is that ppl dont trust what i say anymore (cuz i have a spider in my head and cuz they dont believe a 'perfect' family like ours would ever be in trouble)

And mum and dad would find out that i told, cuz they never do stuff where someone else could see. And cuz they would suspect me straight away and i would be too scared to deny it.

I tried seeing if my little bro could live with me but i have to be 18 first.

Its just really complicated and seems like there will never be any answers.

 

[martin]

Hello Spotted Giraffe,

Its very nice to meet you, I don't think I've seen you on the boards before.

This definitely a very hurtful situation you are dealing with. And it definitely does matter, your feelings and concerns matter a great deal. You are very brave for coming here and posting about this. Your concern shows what a good and caring person you are.

I'm not sure but you seem kind of young, and you are all the more brave for coming forward.

Is there someone you can talk to about this, somebody at school perhaps, an adult you can trust? I think the first thing to do is to find out where you can get help. Perhaps the local children's aid society or social services can help of you feel safe contacting them.

RAINN has a hotline you can call anonymously to talk to someone that maybe able to point in the direction for getting help in your area. The number is 1-800-656-HOPE. Here is a link to their website RAINN

The most important thing is that you get somebody to talk to and stay safe. Please do, and thanks again for posting it was a very brave thing to do.

Peace,

Aaron