life's work

[markgreyblue]

is our life's work to heal?

and what is the end of that healing ?

- no rough spots?

perfection or mastery of self?

- or just viable enough?

- there will always be personal dissapointments

in - myself -

seeing places I could do better -

admiring qualities in others - that for the mix of talents we each have as fellow human beings -

oh - 'I wish I had more of that!"


- I sat here musing - puzzling- on the need to express but what -

when is it enough?

it is perhaps - my nature -

I believe - to wish - I could be better -


But the vision of the healthy standard -

is what I now need to learn -

and unlearn - the untenable version

taught to me

to know when is enough -

when to accept and understand and appreciate

value each other - and all we give.

m

 

[phoster]

striving to be better than we are should never end. i am not sure when a person can say 'i am healed now'. after four years, i am still seeing a shrink, but i am for the most part okay. i certainly am not depressed, so i guess i consider my battle with abuse healed, but my battle to be more than i am i dont think will ever end.

i hope you find the answers, because i think they will be different for everyone. like so much of this we all share a lot in common, but each of us must find our own path to dealing with our problems.

 

[roadrunner]

Mark,

Good question! For me, absolutely not, healing from SA is not my life's work - it's a goal I have so I can realize and ACHIEVE my life's work, whatever that may be.

And what is the end of healing? Not the elimination of rough spots as such - life is about rough spots as much as it's about ease and joy. Healing is about being able to move on with my life, knowing and remembering what was done to me, and understanding what that meant and how it affected me, and still being able to live a life in which those memories have no further power to harm or hinder me.

Much love,
Larry