Life of failures
TRIGGER WARNING .
I am a new member. I pat my self for finally using your board. I Have been a failure in life even though i am very intellegent and had lot of potential, It seem like i always screwup afte a good start. and re start with courage. I alway blamed my luck for the way i am. I guess i never understood my emotions and feelings. Growing up we were not allowed to express them. Now i started to read self help books and start writing my feelings etc. I realized i am always anxious some thing bad would happen to me, Angry and raged, never trusting others ( i thought it was because of my early failures blamed on luck, astrology blah. blah shit),depressed over 10 years , could not connect to peaple, guess did not want. I could not love my wife and kids to the full potential. I have great loving and caring wife and kids. I betrayed her i guess. I was always pre occupied in my mind the failures -- carriers, financial and relation ships of my relatives, and parents. Lets just say an emotional mess. Breaking out in anger on wife at times. Even the luck always fucked me. I am very spiritual person. some time i thought god is screwing up my life. eventually i gave up hopes of success in my life. I moved so many place and even countries for better success, but it is the same. I am trying to run away from my self. OFf late i have ED erectile dys, I thing it is more psych. I was never enjoyed sex with wife. Very low sex drive i thought. But suprisingly not.
After reading self help and abuse related info. I read book on child sexual abuse. My case is perfect symptoms of SA. I never even thought this could be killing my life.
I know i am sexually absued aroud 8 to 9, by a trechourous, tricky, sweet talking, low life kid 13 yr old who was working for my father in his retaurent. First it wa sjust fondling and touching my penis and showing his etc. sleeping in and trying his penis between the thighs. i should have said no. But i guess like all of us here and as a kid diddnot. I was confused and afraid of some one coming to know. I was shit scared to tell any one my parents would have disowned me. I might have even liked it. But i did not understand emotions and feelings.. Know i tried those memories , it hurts like crazy. I remember i felt so stupid, scared some one would find out, disgusting and ashamed of my self , sinned and deserve punishment etc. But i never said no for a while it continued. I guess the excitement was liked by me.In our family we never discussed stuff, i guess we were not open and bit physically abusive. I probably thought nice feeling of being liked/loved shit.
couple years may around 10- 11 yr after a dcontinuity. This bastard whom i trusted slept and i was thinking it was anormal hugging stuff. But this time he turns me back, i did not know what was going. he was sweet talink to me and fucks my ass, i did not allow it first, then usual sweet talk let me open my hole, he penetrated through my ass hole. It hurts to even type this. I strat to shake and cry now. I was shocked by the hurt and was again soothed by his sweet talk. I did not understand. The pain was terrible. It hurt more emotionally. The bastard took advantage of my innocence. After it was over i think was ashamed for few weeks, trying to remember those days it husrts a lot, i was walking in shame, afraid my family and freinds and other would find out, i felt like a whore, i was scared that god is going to punish me. even now i feel sad and axious and embarassment. Lets say i feel like shit. foer allowing lowlife, low cast servent of mine to do this to me.I think i became more and more arrogant, raged after this incident. I almost forgot and moved on tried to be aggod student and a person. I think my subconcious was punishing for the act. That is why i am a failure in life I never spoke with any one. I evn thought it was a way of life. I should have felt all the emotions and griefed. Life would have been different. But i did not. Kow after reading about SA. I am realizing it was not my fault. But the anger, rage and shame and embarassment is stuck in me.For last week i am trying to feel those it hurts like hell even after 35 years. I just want get my life back on track..
The Irony is after shock and accepting what happend that was normal. I went back to hime again and again, But the anal fuck never happend. After reading the posts here i guess my case bid mild, after all my luck is not that fucked up. I then Initiated the man- man sex with may 4-6 peaple of my age to may be 10 year older. I did not know what th fuck going on with my life. I thought i am bad. Low self image is probably the cause of my failure in life. I come from India , back then boys and girls did not date. I did not know if that ws way to release my sexual drive, I felt ashamed of it after doing it. It went on till i was 15 to 16.
I think i had more sex in my child hood than as i am adult. I am always ashamed of it.
Worst thing i even initiared the perpetry on younger ones 2 to6 years youngr than me. I have slowly become my perpetrator and I guess my innerself wanted show that i have power. Starte d of as affectionate then slowly may after about 5 to 6 times of showing the affection and sex in the thighs and masterbation etc. The kids enjoyed it. I build the trust and fuck their Ass and hur them. I was hurt by my act like hell.
I guess my good side of me took over me and my god helped me to stop all this shit by 18. But i am sorry for my causins whom i hurt, My self image is probably that i deserve punishment.
It all happend in India we ar esupposed be very religious its funny.
Then i grew out of it, well educated and had good jobs but some how i always put my self in situations of being a victim and loose on opertunities and change jobs like my child hood sex partners(boys). Kind afraid i had feelings for boys and young adults (
I am a new member. I pat my self for finally using your board. I Have been a failure in life even though i am very intellegent and had lot of potential, It seem like i always screwup afte a good start. and re start with courage. I alway blamed my luck for the way i am. I guess i never understood my emotions and feelings. Growing up we were not allowed to express them. Now i started to read self help books and start writing my feelings etc. I realized i am always anxious some thing bad would happen to me, Angry and raged, never trusting others ( i thought it was because of my early failures blamed on luck, astrology blah. blah shit),depressed over 10 years , could not connect to peaple, guess did not want. I could not love my wife and kids to the full potential. I have great loving and caring wife and kids. I betrayed her i guess. I was always pre occupied in my mind the failures -- carriers, financial and relation ships of my relatives, and parents. Lets just say an emotional mess. Breaking out in anger on wife at times. Even the luck always fucked me. I am very spiritual person. some time i thought god is screwing up my life. eventually i gave up hopes of success in my life. I moved so many place and even countries for better success, but it is the same. I am trying to run away from my self. OFf late i have ED erectile dys, I thing it is more psych. I was never enjoyed sex with wife. Very low sex drive i thought. But suprisingly not.
After reading self help and abuse related info. I read book on child sexual abuse. My case is perfect symptoms of SA. I never even thought this could be killing my life.
I know i am sexually absued aroud 8 to 9, by a trechourous, tricky, sweet talking, low life kid 13 yr old who was working for my father in his retaurent. First it wa sjust fondling and touching my penis and showing his etc. sleeping in and trying his penis between the thighs. i should have said no. But i guess like all of us here and as a kid diddnot. I was confused and afraid of some one coming to know. I was shit scared to tell any one my parents would have disowned me. I might have even liked it. But i did not understand emotions and feelings.. Know i tried those memories , it hurts like crazy. I remember i felt so stupid, scared some one would find out, disgusting and ashamed of my self , sinned and deserve punishment etc. But i never said no for a while it continued. I guess the excitement was liked by me.In our family we never discussed stuff, i guess we were not open and bit physically abusive. I probably thought nice feeling of being liked/loved shit.
couple years may around 10- 11 yr after a dcontinuity. This bastard whom i trusted slept and i was thinking it was anormal hugging stuff. But this time he turns me back, i did not know what was going. he was sweet talink to me and fucks my ass, i did not allow it first, then usual sweet talk let me open my hole, he penetrated through my ass hole. It hurts to even type this. I strat to shake and cry now. I was shocked by the hurt and was again soothed by his sweet talk. I did not understand. The pain was terrible. It hurt more emotionally. The bastard took advantage of my innocence. After it was over i think was ashamed for few weeks, trying to remember those days it husrts a lot, i was walking in shame, afraid my family and freinds and other would find out, i felt like a whore, i was scared that god is going to punish me. even now i feel sad and axious and embarassment. Lets say i feel like shit. foer allowing lowlife, low cast servent of mine to do this to me.I think i became more and more arrogant, raged after this incident. I almost forgot and moved on tried to be aggod student and a person. I think my subconcious was punishing for the act. That is why i am a failure in life I never spoke with any one. I evn thought it was a way of life. I should have felt all the emotions and griefed. Life would have been different. But i did not. Kow after reading about SA. I am realizing it was not my fault. But the anger, rage and shame and embarassment is stuck in me.For last week i am trying to feel those it hurts like hell even after 35 years. I just want get my life back on track..
The Irony is after shock and accepting what happend that was normal. I went back to hime again and again, But the anal fuck never happend. After reading the posts here i guess my case bid mild, after all my luck is not that fucked up. I then Initiated the man- man sex with may 4-6 peaple of my age to may be 10 year older. I did not know what th fuck going on with my life. I thought i am bad. Low self image is probably the cause of my failure in life. I come from India , back then boys and girls did not date. I did not know if that ws way to release my sexual drive, I felt ashamed of it after doing it. It went on till i was 15 to 16.
I think i had more sex in my child hood than as i am adult. I am always ashamed of it.
Worst thing i even initiared the perpetry on younger ones 2 to6 years youngr than me. I have slowly become my perpetrator and I guess my innerself wanted show that i have power. Starte d of as affectionate then slowly may after about 5 to 6 times of showing the affection and sex in the thighs and masterbation etc. The kids enjoyed it. I build the trust and fuck their Ass and hur them. I was hurt by my act like hell.
I guess my good side of me took over me and my god helped me to stop all this shit by 18. But i am sorry for my causins whom i hurt, My self image is probably that i deserve punishment.
It all happend in India we ar esupposed be very religious its funny.
Then i grew out of it, well educated and had good jobs but some how i always put my self in situations of being a victim and loose on opertunities and change jobs like my child hood sex partners(boys). Kind afraid i had feelings for boys and young adults (