LET'S KEEP THIS SITE/MALESURVIVOR GOING!

LET'S KEEP THIS SITE/MALESURVIVOR GOING!
B

bec

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fellow men:

let's not let MALESURVIVOR go bankrupt. i have been using this site for some years now and desparately want it to stay afloat. i am between jobs but i plan to send something small to help out. if this site/organization disappears i for one will GREATLY miss it. i know i cannot be the only one. please, let's all do our part. sincerely and respectfully,


bec

bec, we appreciate your thoughtfulness in starting this thread. No amount is to small and when it comes from a fellow survivor it means so much more.
 
Here in the UK I am involved with Axis, a charity that provides therapy for survivors, and tonight I've been to the 10th anniversary party ( so please excuse any bad typing )

The founder of Axis is a remarkable woman, and tonight she gave a speech and recalled all the hard times when they started up.
They borrowed a room, begged some furniture and a carpet, scrounged an advertising space in the local paper and started helping survivors.
The therapists weren't paid for many years, and they're not paid the going rate now.
But Axis works. In ten years 3,000 survivors have been helped, and that's only a fraction of those abused people who are out there.

Working to help survivors isn't an easy task, Axis works in a small local area, MS is very big compared to that. But the problems are the same, it's only a matter of scale.
As survivors we aren't the most 'popular' charitable group on the block, the local dog pound probaly gets more donations, so we have to help ourselves. Well, not so much ourselves, but those that will surely follow us.

I KNOW how successful good therapy, help and support can be, believe me - six or seven years ago I wouldn't have the confidence to do what I do now.
Survivors CAN, AND DO, go on to live better lives.
I won't bullshit anyone and say there's a cure - there isn't. But we can learn to live with what we've got. Hell - we can benefit from it !
What makes us survivors is our inner strengths, and as we heal we use those strengths in different ways.
Survival is something we admire in others, someone who walks away from a disaster, or crawls off a mountain injured is a hero. Isn't that what we do ?

I think it is.

MS is a part of all our recoveries as well. I got most of my healing from therapy, and the support of my loving wife and a few good friends.
But in the dark hours of a lonely night where did I go for my support - where can I still go ?

Male survivor is where.

Dave
 
I currently do not have financial support that I can offer... I do however have a few things that I could:

- Free enterprise web hosting
- domain, e-mail alias hosting
- 8 years professional web experience, and any help that may be needed

I realize that this organization is more than simply the website, but it would be one less thing to be concerned about. Who do I talk to, to see about this?

- Joe


Thanks Joe. I wanted everyone to know that we are in contact with Joe.
 
I dont have any ways to send money right now either. But I can stuff letter's and lick stamps and get to the post office. Things like that. Let me know if I can help this way.
James


Thank you. Your support of MS is important to us.
 
Hey bec (and all)

I have sort of watched and you have been doing better and better. Good for you, and good for us.

You know, when they started the two-tier member stuff, I guess it was intended as a funding method. I figured, OK, whatever. Not my trip. Conferences, newletters, mailing lists (and whatever else) just seemed like churn to me and did not make much sense.

But if they need just plain operating money to keep the site going . . . well, hey. Just ask. The check is in the mail.

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James and deej . . . don't worry. When you are "all better :) " things -- like your life, finances, relationships, on and on will be better, too.

Might not seem real, yet, but it will. I Promise.

For now, concentrate on getting yourself better.

That alone is some of the hardest and best work you can do for yourself and others.

After you are up and on your feet, you can help pull the freight, then. No big deal, it is just the way these things work.

I understand that 12 step programs sometimes consider that part of the 12th step. (don't ask about the 13th step. :) :) :) )

See you,

Sunshine
 
NOMSV/Male Survivor was there for me when I needed support. Now that I'm stronger, it's my turn to support this worthy organization.

Dan/Seattletux
 
This site and he guys here have done so much for me. The check is on the way.

Thanks for all you do

Ken
 
My donation is on its way. I offer my assistance in any way or form needed. A friend and I have written to every diocese in the state of Maine asking for their help as well. About time they dig in the pockets a bit deeper to help an organization that has helped so many in their clerical abuse situations. I have personally seen what MS has done for me as well as for my best friend.............
Bob
 
Been thinking about what I can do to help. Maybe if the MS Board made printalbe flyer that I could down load and then hand out to anyone and everyone that would take it.....just a thought.
James
 
The check is in the (E)mail.

This site has done so much for me it's the least I could do. I encourage anyone who can spare a little (or a lot) to contribute to keeping this organization going.

Take good care of yourselves, guys, we're all in this together.

Steve
 
I will be using the email to send my donation.
I would be in a rough state without MS.
 
The Men of Male Survivor,

We will do it. I've never been more sure of anything in my life.......hell, I didn't even know if my wife would marry, me. I think that it was something like, "you will marry, won't you?"

So, we enter this fight with our shields held high.......
we engage this battle with our honor at stake.......
we fight for one another as no one has before....
"phalanx, men, so our younger brothers suffer no more."

Lead on Fred.................

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"Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another, 'What?! You too! Thought I was the only one.'" (Clive Staples Lewis)

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Over the last few days I've been thinking about the resources available to Survivors, especially Males.
And if you're like me I bet you've looked around as well ?

There's precious little out there for many of us.
Ok, I know MS. isn't the only Mens Survivor site, but I haven't seen a busier one, or ANY other site that deals with such complex problems in such a superb manner.

And for many Survivors MS.is their lifeline. I've been lucky enough to visit the USA. and Canada, where most users are from, and it's a big place,
where I live the sea is an hours drive east and west !
Therapists and Charities are available all over this small island.
The isolation of some parts of the North American continent mean that something like MS. is going to be the only regular healing resource for some guys.
Not to mention the source of friendship for some that are in remote places, or for some reasons are unable to mix with others freely.

And don't forget we sometimes reach out to English speakers from around the World, abuse knows no borders or boundaries. And there are many places out there where SA is a huge problem and still not acknowledged. "We are not alone"

And that's the most important thing a Survivor will ever hear, "We are not alone"

Most Survivors find us by surfing the 'net - type "male sexual abuse" into any search engine and see where MS. comes in ?
We're always towards the top of the list, and those above us are usually a different sort of site, so this is often where people come and read about Male SA for the very first time in their lives.
Have you ever noticed how many new names are shown at the head of our home page ?

Often those guys never make more than a brief appearence on the forums, sometimes they never post a thing, but they come and they read. They discover they are not alone.
And that can be enough strength and inspiration to go away and begin the sort of healing we know is possible.

So we can't let MS sink without trace, it would be a disaster for us, but for those guys that are surely following us it's unthinkable.

Dave
 
Guys:

Your response is really heartening, and Murray Schane, our Treasurer, tells me that donations have been coming in. Thank you all. I know you are doing it fo yourselves and for one another, but I want to tell you how important it is to us on the Board as well.

Keep telling people!

Richard Gartner
President
MaleSurvivor
 
Dr. Gartner:

I think that we are doing it for the collective we and you and MS being we as well.

More importantly I think that we all are doing it for those yet to find us and that flow will never cease.

What is the policy on seeking donations from the Public Sector both in the US and Canada. I know that MS has close ties to the FBI and other sources. I intend to hit up my Provincial Government as soon as they take Power.

As well I think that the collective we consider it an honour to be part of MS and all it stands for.

I just thought of something else. Has there ever been a thought to seeking corporate sponsorship for MS. I mean that if we represent 20% of the population (male) it affects virtually every company of any size in North Americal.
 
Guys,

How great you all are! Each of us knows what this place as meant to us, each has seen our growth and healing, each has touched another with our acceptance of each other - holding the door open to come out of the cold and lonely separation we grew up with - priceless love/amazing grace

I would be so lost with out you guys...
I could never give enough back - but I will start now with what I can afford, and will give more again as we approach the deadline.
 
Friends,

It is good to come back if only for a short visit. I have been so preoccupied with school full time and work full time that I have not had the time to spend on line.

Anyway, regarding the topic, I just finished setting the text of my survivor poem "The Prison Bard" to music. It is a choral setting for 8 part men's voices. I am beginning the process of finding a male chorus to perform it. The dedication reads: to all survivors of sexual abuse and assault and to NOMSV, the vanguard organization.

I am truly scraping the barrel to pay for school and cannot contribute at this point to the emergency fund. I do plan to renew my menbership next year. However, if any revenues are generated from future sales of the music or recordings of Prison Bard, I will donate all proceeds to MS as a living legacy as as long as it is alive and doing its good will. Not that it will make anyone rich, but I have so much for which to be grateful because of MS, it is me simply doing what I can with what I have. I no longer love and support it for what it can do for me, but for what I can do for it, and ultimately the never ending stream of survivors who come knocking at its doors.

Be well my dear comrades. You are always in the front of my thoughts.

Ron
 
Thank you, Ron. I would have liked to have met you at the conf in Minneapolis. Maybe in two years? Good luck on the project.
Ken
 
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