LEE 83 HAS SOME ISSUES REGARDING MALE SEXUALITY

[Robert Barrett]

My name is Lee 83 and when I was young, my father forced my to do things with my sister and my father forced my sister to do things with him. It irritates me because when i look back sometimes, I couldn't imagine what went through my sisters head. It makes me seriously angry towards my father.
Anyway, like sex but I want to masterbate (don't mean to offend anyone) to a picture of a woman. I'm not in the mood to, but then, I force myself to just to feel good and to keep my Personal area up and going. I have trouble with erections(not trying to be to explicit) and I don't feel interested in woman my age. I'm always looking at woman who are in their 40's or something. If a girl is dressed slutty, I want her but am not in the mood. If a girl is dressed in lingerie in a picture and she looks sexy, I want her. I'm really not in the mood to but I force myself to anyway and they other day I ejaculated like 5 times in a day, and again the next day. Since I'm not in the mood to.....I don't know what to make of this but, I think their might be a problem or something....it's just that something isn't ....right here. I really apologize if I have offended anyone here with my post. I really do. I had to get this out tonight.

 

[Serious Dave]

Hi Lee83,

I am sorry for what you and your sister had to endure.

Your situation is a bit different from mine, but I will also masturbate when I am not really in the mood; though I don't think I could do it 5 times in a day - maybe twice at most.

In my case, I think I do it to relieve stress if I think too much about my issues; it's like a distraction. Or, I do it just to change the way I feel if I'm not feeling comfortable in my own skin. Having an orgasm releases hormones that make you feel calm and maybe even sleepy. I guess it's sort of like drinking or taking drugs to alter your mood; maybe a compulsive thing. But I suppose it won't hurt you either.

Beyond that, I really don't know what might cause it. Just don't look at it as a problem you caused - you are not at fault! With what happened to you, it's perfectly normal to have some issues, we all do. Perhaps someone else can offer another idea.

Dave

 

[newground]

Hi lee 83
iI think what you mention is fairly common.I know that masturbation has always been a huge thing for me to deal with and yea it seems to run the show.I can still hit 5 times in a day and when I was younger it was often more. It is a soothing behavior and at orgasm comes it is a powerful release of brain chemicals that gives us that peaceful calm feeling though the more we rely on that release just like any other drug it can become less effective. there is a lot of shame involved in abuse that can affect the way we think and feel I don't know if you are in therapy but that might help to sort things out too
I hope it gets better soon
Jeff