Kharma

[sorryson]

Last week I went to PAS, parent alienation meeting with my brother and Mama. Someone started talking about karma. I guess it is payback for doing wrong. My brother spoke and said it hit him hard. He talked about all the bad he did to Dad and said look at him, never had a social life, never attended college because he always loved Mama too much. Mama piped in and said how wrong she had been and the lies she and her family lived hurt too many. My brother said his karma almost led him to killing himself. Mama said all the bad she did to Dad to keep her family happy and for her to have our love gave her a slew of medical issues of anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, diabetes. She said since she has accepted what she did and how she robbed their Dad of his children, how she did not know how to love a husband because of all the teasing done to her and the bullying by her brothers to her father and her mother laughing with the brothers and saying grandpa was wrong to leave as he was being attacked her health has improved. Her medication for blood pressure has been halved, her diabetes is under control and she is off her anxiety medication. I jumped in and said I had a nervous breakdown and my sister was an alcoholic. My brother asked why did karma pay us back and all the sexual abusers seem to get away scott free.

I have no idea what happened to my abuser but I see some here whose abusers live long lives, terrorizing many children.

I never believed in karma and after our talk the other night I do. I see it in us and once we accepted what Mama and her family did to us and Dad, we have better health and see the best in people and life. I wish I had listened to my wife years ago and had gotten help. She saw what my family did to the children but my love, I guess obsession to regain Mama's love did not let me see what was in front of my nose.

My CSA played in this and listening to Mama I realize hiding the truth can effect us medically and physically. I want to come totally clean about my CSA and Dad. No more, I guess they are right Karma is a bitch. I lived it and my family lived it. Let go of the abuse and do not let it control you. I hid it with everything we did to Dad and I and my family paid.

Paul

 

[KMCINVA]

Have to think about this because where I work what you surround yourself with expands is said by many--if you surround yourself with positive people your mindset changes as does the outcomes. I wish no bad karma to anyone even if the caused me pain or harm. Well maybe my abuser it would not bother me. Unfortunately those who inflicted pain and denied my abuse have experienced bad karma. Are they being paid forwand I hope not. Even a former in law who in my opinion is very selfish and was part of the issue has recently suffered a life threatening illness. I would not wish the illness on anyone and always hope they have the best outcome. I do hope the negative energy toward me was not a factor. When I first heard of it someone said she sowed her own seed. I said that is wrong. Maybe there is something to the energy we generate is the energy we attract. I will have to think and read about it. Some have said my children have sowed the seed of their own destiny by their words and actions. Hopefully not

 

[sorryson]

I am beginning to believe there is something about how we act and how it comes back to us. I have seen a change in my life since I have been giving time to children advocacy center my Dad gave much to you. The rewards are more inner. I also see my brother seeing life better and he is getting healthy getting out and no longer hanging out in the house with Mama. Mama is better and I am. Karma may be real after all. I need to remember this.

 

[KMCINVA]

Oddly this was sent to me today--I never knew there were 12 Laws to Karma

Here are the 12 laws of Karma everyone should know!

1. The Great Law
“As you sow, so shall you reap.” Also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect.”
To receive happiness, peace, love, and friendship, one must BE happy, peaceful, loving, and a true friend.
Whatever one puts out into the Universe will come back to them.

2. The Law of Creation
Life requires our participation to happen. It does not happen by itself.
We are one with the Universe, both inside and out.
Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.
Surround yourself with what you want to have in your life and be yourself.

3. The Law of Humility
One must accept something in order to change it.
If all one sees is an enemy or a negative character trait, then they are not and cannot be focused on a higher level of existence.

4. The Law of Growth
“Wherever you go, there you are.”
It is we who must change and not the people, places or things around us if we want to grow spiritually.
All we are given is ourselves. That is the only thing we have control over.
When we change who and what we are within our hearts, our lives follow suit and change too.

5. The Law of Responsibility
If there is something wrong in one’s life, there is something wrong in them.
We mirror what surrounds us, and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth.
One must take responsibility for what is in one’s life.

6. The Law of Connection
The smallest or seemingly least important of things must be done because everything in the Universe is connected.
Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on.
Someone must do the initial work to get a job done.
Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance. They are both needed to accomplish the task.
Past, Present, and Future are all connected.

7. The Law of Focus
One cannot think of two things at the same time.
If our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is not possible for us to have lower thoughts like greed or anger.

8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality
If one believes something to be true, then sometime in their life they will be called upon to demonstrate that truth.
Here is where one puts what they CLAIM to have learned into PRACTICE.

9. The Law of Here and Now
One cannot be in the here and now if they are looking backward to examine what was or forward to worry about the future.
Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, and old dreams prevent us from having new ones.

10. The Law of Change
History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.

11. The Law of Patience and Reward
All Rewards require initial toil.
Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.
True joy comes from doing what one is supposed to be doing, and knowing that the reward will come in its own time.

12. The Law of Significance and Inspiration
One gets back from something whatever they put into it.
The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it.
Every personal contribution is also a contribution to the Whole.
Lesser contributions have no impact on the Whole, nor do they work to diminish it.

Loving contributions bring life to and inspire the Whole.

Karma is a lifestyle that promotes positive thinking and actions. It also employs self-reflection to fix the problems in one’s life.

 

[zookeeper]

Sorryson

The confusion that a troubled family dynamic is all too real. It sounds like youve experienced a lot. I cant say that Ive forgiven my abusers. Healing brings forgiveness and Im just not there yet. I can hear you pain and think I can understand some of it.
Remember, you get to make the choices now. And what Kevin wrote is correct. Start investing kindness and good things in your life and start with you first. You deserve all the kindness that you can give.
Zookeeper