just need to write this cant find my 1st post

[mikewww]

"I think I may have got myself into trouble, so might not post much until I work through this. I suspect I have fallen into a situation where I am expected to act sexually. I recently started a new job as a butler in a large house, but there seems to be a little too much emphasis on sexual activities which also sometimes involves me.
I'm not sure if anyone has been in this situation, but if so, I'd be pleased to hear from you.
So far, I tend to go along, but suspect it is not good for me.".

 

[Ceremony]

I've not been in a situation of any kind that has open opportunities for sex, so I'm responding because we all need contact. I expect there's someone who might relate in some way, but it is probably not likely to be job related. Similarity might be a trigger, in that the relatable parts might be that someone may have been in a sexual harassment scenario? Seems probable on in these forums.

The only time I had a sexual advance, it was manageable, not a negative experience, and ended friendly without sex.


To me, I can only ask that you be safe, not just the sex, but your well being, and whether there are aspects of this new situation that you've not thought of, or considered. Which I doubt. I'm writing it, so it's easy to see, that you know what is there, we don't, and if there are consequences, you've written that post because they've crossed your mind.

I really hope you're doing Ok, and will make any efforts you need, to keep asking things here, or with therapy if that's available. It's healthy to ask, and question oneself.

Be good to yourself.

 

[mikewww]

thanks for your words