just forget it
just forget it
- Thread starterTrevor
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roadrunner
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Trev,
That's how it feels sometimes, yes. But in reality you are a great guy with a lot of guts when it comes to facing these things. Good sense of humor too!
People care here because YOU are worth caring about.
Much love,
Larry
That's how it feels sometimes, yes. But in reality you are a great guy with a lot of guts when it comes to facing these things. Good sense of humor too!
People care here because YOU are worth caring about.
Much love,
Larry
"well most of the time ppl
dont just care cuz they care
its usualy cuz they want
something" Posted Trevor
What could anyone that has been through what we have possibly want to gain? Cept maybe some understanding themselves and the gift of Understanding others..
Fight the good fight
dont just care cuz they care
its usualy cuz they want
something" Posted Trevor
What could anyone that has been through what we have possibly want to gain? Cept maybe some understanding themselves and the gift of Understanding others..
Fight the good fight
markgreyblue
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trevor - i am with larry -
have you ever heard of the idea of undermining yourself?
the negative stuff - it's like the voice of the abuse - it's telling you it's bigger than you
it's NOT
there's a lot of confusion about everything i am sure -
and acting out - with anger - having those feelings is natural - it's ok
it would be odd not to be angry - eh?
it might be odd to not be thrown for a freakin' loop and wonder which way is up
i mean for pete's sake
sometimes i feel like a pork chop in a synagogue
totally un like anything around me - !
keep on keeping on trev - (hugs)
smiles bud
mgb
have you ever heard of the idea of undermining yourself?
the negative stuff - it's like the voice of the abuse - it's telling you it's bigger than you
it's NOT
there's a lot of confusion about everything i am sure -
and acting out - with anger - having those feelings is natural - it's ok
it would be odd not to be angry - eh?
it might be odd to not be thrown for a freakin' loop and wonder which way is up
i mean for pete's sake
sometimes i feel like a pork chop in a synagogue
totally un like anything around me - !
keep on keeping on trev - (hugs)
smiles bud
mgb
markgreyblue
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michael Joseph
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I care trevor and you just saved me 5 months of therapy just by reading your posts (that is humor)
it is good to get angry better if no one gets hurt when you are angry.
hugs trevor
it is good to get angry better if no one gets hurt when you are angry.
hugs trevor
Here is a copy of an email my friend who helped me through all this. I sent a Thanks you email and this was his reply. I think he did save me some $$$$$ in therapy to be honest. I read this email almost daily thanking God that I have someone that I have known for 24+ years and never new why we really became so close until a few weeks ago.
Re: The love of a friend
No need to thank me and theres nothing wrong with being mushy; through my tough guy exterior Im actually the biggest pussy I think having gone through what weve both gone through, you build a wall and image of being tough just to make sure everyone knows youre a bad ass and not some weak fragile person that can be taken advantage of
This was a club neither of us chose, it chose us. I spent years of doubt and questioning my own manhood and sexuality, it wasnt the fact that I thought a was a homo but more the fact that I thought other people would think I was, so if I kicked someones ass every now and then, it validated the fact that I was a Man, but as Ive grown older, Ive realized that a real Man doesnt need to prove to everyone hes a man, it was the insecurity that was killing me
When someone goes through what we did, you get fucked up in the head and everything is about sex there is this weird switch that goes off in your head after your innocence is stolen from you We cant take it away, but we can make sure it doesnt happen to our kids (because we know the signs); we can learn from it, talk about it and finally let it go
Like I said last night, once we admit it and accept that it wasnt our fault and we did nothing wrong, it takes away the power and pain and allows us to be the Man and husband our wifes love, married and deserve, it allows us to be the fathers our kids deserve, and most importantly allows us the opportunity to like who we see in the mirror
There, I just saved you thousands of dollars in therapy =)
Re: The love of a friend
No need to thank me and theres nothing wrong with being mushy; through my tough guy exterior Im actually the biggest pussy I think having gone through what weve both gone through, you build a wall and image of being tough just to make sure everyone knows youre a bad ass and not some weak fragile person that can be taken advantage of
This was a club neither of us chose, it chose us. I spent years of doubt and questioning my own manhood and sexuality, it wasnt the fact that I thought a was a homo but more the fact that I thought other people would think I was, so if I kicked someones ass every now and then, it validated the fact that I was a Man, but as Ive grown older, Ive realized that a real Man doesnt need to prove to everyone hes a man, it was the insecurity that was killing me
When someone goes through what we did, you get fucked up in the head and everything is about sex there is this weird switch that goes off in your head after your innocence is stolen from you We cant take it away, but we can make sure it doesnt happen to our kids (because we know the signs); we can learn from it, talk about it and finally let it go
Like I said last night, once we admit it and accept that it wasnt our fault and we did nothing wrong, it takes away the power and pain and allows us to be the Man and husband our wifes love, married and deserve, it allows us to be the fathers our kids deserve, and most importantly allows us the opportunity to like who we see in the mirror
There, I just saved you thousands of dollars in therapy =)