Just because you are a survivor does not mean you get carte blanc
One of the things that many survivors faced was manipulation. And deceit.
And I have seen this even coming from survivors. Just because we are survivors doesn't mean we are automatically nice people. Sometimes, far from it.
I cannot tell you the number of times I have trusted survivors, worked hard with them, and then have it thrown back in my face when they get a wild hair up their ass. I do not fault myself for trusting or trying to help. That fault lies with the other party. Never blame yourself for doing the right thing, even if you are on the receiving end of manipulation or deceit by another survivor.
The WORST situation is when a survivor does this more than once and then, each time, acts like nothing happened as time passes. Nary an apology is forthcoming.
What I HAVE learned is that you need to take the measure of another person before you get too personal with them. I can count on one hand the people that have my complete and absolute trust. Trust is hard for ALL survivors.
Never, EVER, beat yourself up for doing the right thing just because someone used/abused you. As long as your side of the street is clean, you have a clear conscience.
And I have seen this even coming from survivors. Just because we are survivors doesn't mean we are automatically nice people. Sometimes, far from it.
I cannot tell you the number of times I have trusted survivors, worked hard with them, and then have it thrown back in my face when they get a wild hair up their ass. I do not fault myself for trusting or trying to help. That fault lies with the other party. Never blame yourself for doing the right thing, even if you are on the receiving end of manipulation or deceit by another survivor.
The WORST situation is when a survivor does this more than once and then, each time, acts like nothing happened as time passes. Nary an apology is forthcoming.
What I HAVE learned is that you need to take the measure of another person before you get too personal with them. I can count on one hand the people that have my complete and absolute trust. Trust is hard for ALL survivors.
Never, EVER, beat yourself up for doing the right thing just because someone used/abused you. As long as your side of the street is clean, you have a clear conscience.