Just a little being together

[Aden]

Isnt this fun!

I have learned more about the inner workings of my screwed up mind in the last month, than in the last 37 years. And now I know a whole lot more about the problems of some of the people that I run into on the street every day. It is a lot to take in is such a short time.

I have been visiting here like a religion, like some convoluted sort of faith, believing that there might be hope and help to be found. I wasnt wrong. But there is trouble.

We dont always understand each other as we mean to be understanding. There is no likelihood that we ever will. Things we say are not taken as they are meant. We have spent so much time dodging, hiding, and protecting our precious little egos that we cant see past our own BS.

This is the most understanding, accepting group of men that I have ever been associated with. But we all have to keep working on that to keep it true.

This is my promise: I will never say anything with the intention of hurting anyone. If you are hurt by what I say, I am sorry. That is not the way I meant it. But please understand that I can be a real bear when feeling attacked. So, dont mess with me!

Or else I will twist off you ugly nose.

What strikes me as odd is that I most want to get on well with those who seem most distant. I want to be included as a friend among those with whom I most disagree. Isnt that a real perversion?

Aden

 

[Mike Church]

You said:

What strikes me as odd is that I most want to get on well with those who seem most distant. I want to be included as a friend among those with whom I most disagree. Isnt that a real perversion?

Not really when you think about it. In a true and good relationship between brothers is that not the case. You figth like hell sometimes but by god he is your brother and you love him.

 

Aden,

I understand what you're saying. I want to share something with you that I had to have pounded into my head here . When we read words in print, we tend to translate what we read through our own thought processes and our perceptions of reality. Not always can what is intended to be convyed successfully be done. I know that only too well.

Mike is right, true brothers can fight and still end up the best of friends. I've actually done that here with a couple of people.

Give yourself a break. As someone once said to me, if you want to post something that expresses negative thoughts about others here or thier opinions, type it out and walk away. If, after fifteen or thirty minutes, read it again. If it still makes sense to you, post it.

Peace, my brother!

Marc

 

[reality2k4]

Aden,

37 years to find this place, I took 39 beat you there, but I know how long that is to keep so much shit at bay, the feelings of thinking every day of your life, not knowing really why you feel the feelings you feel, realising that you are not the only "mad" one in the World.

It's the biggest find on the internet, that I can think of, it gave me so many answers, you probably sweep up the horrors emotionally done to others, I do, sometimes I have to switch off, because I get emotionally involved when things come back to me.

The road to recovery is a hard road, but you found it, there is a lot of hurt here, but there is a lot of hurt in me and in you, people need to know the unimaginable hurt we suffer, and to carry this burden thru childhood really is the ultimate challenge I could ever think a human being could ever face.

We will win the battle

together

as one

ste

 

[Leosha]

Aden,

I know what you mean. I think it is remarkable, that this site runs as smoothly as it do, on a regular basis. That is thanks to help from the moderators, who do much to keep this place safe and healthy for all of us, but get no credit when it works! There have been arguments, disagreements, full out fights here. But I find it surprising it don't happen more, because of how emotionally upset we often are. You have all these people put together in different stages of healing, different triggers, in different emotional states, and we are all here together, trying to deal with ourselves and others. That it is so civil and supportive normally is amazing.

And I understand what you say, of wanting most to get to know the ones that are distant, or that you disagree with. Different is challenge. And you seem an intelligent person, who probably enjoy challenge!

I don't know if I am distant enough for you, but you are welcome to PM with me! It seem we are not often online same time, but my time here varies. I think already you have been a very positive addition to this site.

Leosha