Job decision causing anxiety

Job decision causing anxiety
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LupinIII

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I work for an insane business selling advertising. It causes me a lot of stress on top of the anxiety I am going through with my discovery of SA.

I can make a certain amount (not high) per week depending on how many "pitches" i get . There is no consistency and if I have a week where I do not get a hold of anyone I am screwed abd get a lower rate.

However if I make a deal (and I have made 16 of them so far) I get a decent chunk of change.

I got an offer today to work for a company that sells the online distance learning programs for several really good universities (legit ones). They pay a low base that just about equals the high range of what I get weekly now but there is no upfront commission or bonus. Every six months I get a chance for a raise of up to a decent amoutn and after a student i enroll takes 24 credits I get 75 bucks (abotu a year and a half per student).

This company is growing and is only ten minutes away from my house and will pay for one course per semester for me towards a degree.

The company I am working for is 45 minutes away 9plus toll).

If I take the new job our finances would be tighter but there is more stability and potential.

I need to decide tonight and this is triggering off my issues (change, lack of belief in doing the right thing).

Can anyone offer any advice on how to get past the craziness in me head? I need to have clarity on this and all I can feel is dizzy.
 
Nobody can tell you what to do. Only you can decide. But there are some things I think you should look at.

1. It is closer

2. They will pay for one course per semester

3. They deal with legit Universities

4. The new company is growing

5. The job you are in is stressful and by your own words you get based upon pitches and that says to me you are not terribly happy doing that.

6. Yes it will be a bit strained at first but the future with the new company seems to be more promising.

Hope this helps
 
lupin,
i struggled with the high anxiety job i had last year (and held for four years). in the final analysis i had to take a leap of faith that somewhere, somehow, it was going to be okay. throughout the past year the finances have been in the toilet more times then the tidy bowl man, but what has happened is that i am on track for my dream job. only you can make the call, lupin, but what decided me was that the former job was just too much hell for me to handle. the stress and survive at the same time. it worked out for me because this is where i was meant to be. the best way to decide this is to determine if the anxiety is really worth the price when there is another similar, even if less financially, option available. keep me posted, lupin. either way, you will make the right choice for where you are meant to be in your journey. take care.
 
One thing I often do when I am confronted with questions like this is I sit down with a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. I put "pros" on one side and "cons" on the other side for making the change. And then I begin to list every little thing I can think of whether I think it is a small item or not. Often by the time I've gotten the page filled up, the decision of what to do becomes more apparent and it often matches my gut feeling.

I have used this approach so many times to help me weed through things because for me the fear of change is sometimes much greater than any other part of the decision process. This takes a little of that out of it. I have also tried to visualize myself in whatever the change would result in and see if the picture is something that I can live with or if it looks foreign and "not right" to me.

You know, I've had some jobs where I thought I was making the right decision and after I got there, I realized it wasn't the place that I thought it was. I went to one that was a big increase in pay, but I had to move 1000 miles away. I think they flew me up for 3 interviews plus I had two phone interviews and thought I knew the place well. Unfortunately they were masters of disguise and they fooled me. But, But,,,, if I wouldn't have made this move, than most likely I would have never considered coming to FL, and I would not be spending my life with someone I care about. So that rough choice which I left the job after 3 months of being there was a spring board for me to get to another place I needed to be.

As one therapist told me, whatever we choose to do today is what we do today. Tomorrow, we have the opportunity and ability to choose another direction or path for our life. Each day is a new chapter in the storybook of our life and whatever we decide to put in it is all up to us.

Hope this helps and my thoughts go out to you because I know these decisions can be extremely tough. Trust yourself and your judgement - or as I do, trust your gut istinct.

Don
 
It sounds like the newer position would be the beter choice for you. I hope you have done what has helped you best.

Leosha
 
LupinIII,

I hope that you have made a decision that is comfortable for you. I am in a somewhat similar situation myself, except for not having an offer. :)

My current contract expires in less than three weeks and I don't know yet where I will be going, what I will be doing, or how much I can make. All that is certain is that the contract cannot be extended. So, if it helps any, know that you are not alone.

If you did choose the new company, there is a saying I have heard that might apply to your new situation, with money tighter but future prospects bright. "Beginnings are delicate times."

Thanks,

Joe
 
I wound up taking the job and I start Monday.

I feel somewhat numb, but mostly filled with anxiety. I don't think my wife really understands what is going on inside of me, how could she, and I don't have any friends left really.

I am one big knot right now. I am trying to stay away from dysfunctional behavior, i.e. spending money for nothing, going to a strip club, but it is hard.

Man I wish my wife could get a job that paid enough to support us and I could stay home for a while, but that's not going to happen. Plus now I cannot afford seeing a T for about six months.

One big friggin knot....that's me.
 
Hey brother: The biggest fear we have is of the unknown. Especially when it involves a new job. You will be seen as a newbie. Well so what. Every person there was a newbie once.

Just be yourself and relax.

You said:
and I don't have any friends left really.
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Now brother I dont think you really meant that. What about us here at MS. We are your friends and you have to remember that you are not alone in this new adventure. We are all pulling for you. ;)
 
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