I've decided to meet with her

[Macaroni]

So, in less than 2 weeks, I'm spending 8 months on the other side of the world. It's been almost 6 months exactly since the assault took place, and I haven't really talked to her since. We used to be in a relationship before it happened, and i believe it was 100% unintentional on her part. Mixed with the pain and anger and fear I've experienced over the past 6 months, I've also experienced an overwhelming feeling of missing what we had and wondering how she's doing. So, before I leave for a long while, I've decided to meet with her.

I honestly dont even know what I would say. What either of us will say. It's not like we can pretend it never happened when we talk, but delving too deep into it could cause for a lot of hurt and vulnerability, which I'm not that cool with sharing with her. All I really know is I want to see her before I go. This could open up a whole world of hurt for us, I know that's a possibility. But it's honestly been nice communicating with her again via text for the past week trying to see if we could meet, and I feel like seeing her in person could give a sense of closure or peace to it.

She's scared, but willing do it she says if it'll help me. It's going to happen at some point this week. I'm not sure if I'm walking into a huge mistake or a helpful decision, but I guess I'm gonna find out.

 

[Bluedogone]

Congratulations on the new job offer. The other side of the world change of scenery should be refreshing as well as a true time to start over.

I'm sure you've given the impending meeting all the pros and cons for you. Best wishes for a positive result. I would only suggest that you get firmly fixed in your mind what you expect to get out of this meeting, and how you will react no matter the outcome. The last thing you need right now would be more anxiety and more doubt or wonder about "what might be" with a possible future relationship with her. Real closure to the attack would be good, but be sure you don't end up with thoughts of the possibility of an eight month absence followed by a new and improved relationship with her.

Be good to yourself and be sure this meeting is the best thing for YOU.