It's not easy!

[frozen angel]

How many times can you cry before the tears refuse to fall anymore??? I'm 18 and I live with VERY insensitive parents and I'm in college (struggling...emotionally) as a journalism major. Surviving an onslaught of adolescent emotional struggles was NOT easy...
are there brighter days?

frozen angel

 

[Janos]

Hey. You sound like you're going through a lot right now--I don't know what it is, but I can tell you that it will get better. I'm only 19, so I don't speak from decades of experience, but I think I've had enough experience crammed into 19 years to last me the rest of my life. I understand about having insensitive parents, believe me I do! I moved out right after high school, though, so thankfully I only have them in small doses now. In high school I was more miserable than I thought anybody could stand--those tears just never seemed to dry up. But it's better now, much better now, and it's only been two years. Hang on, OK? There are brighter days, even though I know sometimes it seems like there never will be.

--Janos

 

[JeffNYC]

dear frozen angel,
my heart aches for how much you have been hurt and how sad it is. Safe people are your best resource. a counselor? school therapist? do you live in a place with 12-step groups like Al-Anon, which are terrific even if there is no alcohol in the family?
if your parents are hurting you physically, in any way at all, is there a youth shelter? you can actually report them to the police, since now more police take child abuse seriously? maybe there are child abuse prevention groups that you can find in the telephone book.
there are also abused-women and battered-women groups in lots of places, and they are all great and fantastic, and undoubtedly would help an abused young man who had no other resource.
you are important, angel, and you are not at fault. i hope you can hang on and believe in yourself.
for me, i'm 49, gay with children 13 and 10 years old. Life gets better and better, every day and every year in recovery. the hardest part is believing in myself, which is the worst symptom of all from my father's raping me while i was young.
good luck, angel. thanks to janos for helpful thoughts. email me if you want, any time. [email protected]
Best wishes
Jeff

 

[rax]

There definitely are better days.
Cry all you want, coz it helps the healing process.
somedays, when I know its going to be a bad day, I go ahead and forcibly cry it all out, because, once I've done that, I know I can get on with life.
At 18, you are just beginning "your" life, live it like you would want to.
IF you dont find comfort and a willing ear in family, find it elsewhere, or find it within yourself.

we all survive. God built the survival instinct into us because he loves us and wants to protect us on earth.
"Behold, I send thee as sheep among the wolves"