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efingeph

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greetings
1 of the feelings I know very well is this

have been in therapy on & off for about 15 years
read tons of books, online alot

part of the reason I registered with this site was to try to spend more time with people that I have something in common with (aside from breathing :{>)


is this an issue for a lot of us?
 
efingeph,

Welcome to Male Survivor.

U found the right place, we are not only breathing we are discorvering ways to cope and heal everyday.

Great guys and great support here.
 
Well, I know that it is so healing for me when I read what others have to say. I can Identify with their pain and their joy and it makes me know that I'm not alone.

I was alone for so long. Now I know that I am not and I have a group of folk online and in real life that I can support and be supported by.

It makes all the difference.

John
 
efingeph,

I have yet to read a survivor book. I have purchased several. Have not read one. It is as anything else in our healing, it must be done little at a time, as we are able to.

But yes, I first searched for resources online to be able to share and be among people who can understand and relate to me, but at the same time, I need not be face to face with them. I have a therapist, but 'group therapy' is something I am not sure still I could do, or want to. So I do understand what you mean, of having things in common other then just breathing!

Welcome here, and know that whatever you say, it is understood and/or appreciated.

Leosha
 
Leosha,

I can relate to your hesitency to attend group therapy.

I agreed to go because my therapist recommended it. But I made myself sick with dread of going. It turned out to be one of the most rewarding experiences in my recovery.

You need to do what is right for you, when it is right for you. Just remember to be honest with yourself in the process.

Keep up the courage. Your posts have been inspirational and thought provoking to me.

John
 
Hi folks...
I did try group therapy twice
once just after recovering sketchy memories of the first instance
attended for 6 weeks, twice weekly

while I could identify with alot of what was discussed, I fell back on being support for others without addressing my own needs

(not the right time/too much fear/old habits/ who can say)

I went to a different group several years later for sexual addiction & just got really p*ssed at other people, the whole structure, etc

(rebelliousness, anti-authoritarian, just plain nasty period of my life)

was lucky enough to get referred to a shrink & develop some respect & trust for him after quite a few years...

trust is tuff
I find I accept something I read in a book, quicker than I would hearing it from someone face to face

thanks for sharing your thoughts folks
 
while I could identify with alot of what was discussed, I fell back on being support for others without addressing my own needs
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That is one of my concerns over group stuff, because I bottle all this crap so tightly.

As Leosha said, about books, yes, Ive got them, dont read them, and have to remember to put some time into doing it, if I remember :eek:

Whatever floats your boat ;)

ste
 
right now books on yoga, reflexology & buddhist thought are baking my cake

I have only read 1 book about sexual abuse about 10 years ago
the reason I bought it was the picture on the cover looked
alot like me (a toddler holding a kittycat)

I was sexually activated/abused the first time by a neighbour when I was 2 years old

not quite ready to tell my story yet

peace
 
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