Is this all there is? *Could Trigger*

Is this all there is? *Could Trigger*
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Derdlecar

I had a very interesting experience today at work. One of the patients I care for asked me for a cup of coffee which I got for him. When I gave it to him, he asked me, Is this all there is?

No, theres more. Breakfast will be here in just a few minutes. I answered as I left the room. Now this gentleman is about 80 years old and has had a stroke and is paralyzed on the left side and in a wheel chair. He followed me out of the room where I was working at my medication cart and asked me again, Is this all there is?

I looked at him, said something about not understanding the question to which he replied. Darrel, You have to know, is this all there is? I looked at him and called him by name, ______, I said, Please help me. Im not sure what it is you are asking about. And what he said next nearly blew me away. Darrel, every since that bastard had his way with me when I was a kid, Ive had this empty, lonely feeling that wont go away, is this all there is? There just has to be more.

I got down on my knees by his wheel chair, took both his hands in mine and cried with him. Through his tears, he asked me why I cried and all I could say was, Me too, me too. Been there done that.

Before I left work today, I told him happy New Year and that He would be in my thoughts and prayers during my two days off. I also told him that I would see him again on New Years Day. At this time I dont know what will come of this, but I sure understand his anger a whole lot better. Just thought some of you might like to hear about this experience.
 
Darrel,

I am moved and touched by your story. SA, unfortunately, doesn't discriminate when it comes to age.

What a beautiful connection you have made with this man. The answer to his question is no, of course this is not all there is. And it's never too late to start recovery!
 
I think it's tragic that it happened to him at a time when he had no prospect for support, understanding, and justice.

At least he knows that he's not alone now.
 
it could just be that he saw right inside you and saw what we see. you can't hide a kind heart ,i saw it the first time i came here ,i also saw someone who knows how to cope with what we all are going through .i thought this guy can help me don't know why but i felt it adam
 
Darrel,

Adam is right. This story is about your 80 yo patient, but it is also about you.

No, this isn't all there is. But in order to know that and believe it we need other people to help us along the way.

Much love,
Larry
 
Darrel - they say that 'with age, comes wisdom'. I think that you and your patient could help each other.

You can add some solace to his life at this late stage, by promising to live your life, and by finding out that, 'Yes there is more than this'.

Best wishes ...Rik
 
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