Is their any man who was abused by their own mother like i was?

Is their any man who was abused by their own mother like i was?
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Frank G

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Hi,
This is my first post. I just found this site.
I have a severe problem. In the past I was sexualily abused by my own mother. I feel totally
alone. Even though this was years ago it troubles
me every day. I don't feel I have a right to call
myself human. I hope I can find another man who had the same thing happen to him, so that we can
talk. I fear any others may be dead or in prison.
Is their another incest victem out there somewhere? If so please mail me, or leave a mesage
here. Thanks Frank G.
 
Frank, when I came here I also thought I would be in the minority in having been sexually abused by my mother, but I was wrong. Many of us here have been victims of incest by our mothers. You are NOT alone! If you would like to talk about it more, feel free to send me an email or private message. :) Welcome to the boards!
 
Hello Sick Puppy,
Yes please I would like to talk with you.
I can't seem to figure out how to private
e-mail you. Will you please write me at this
address I will leave here, so I can mail you
back. what I would like to do is tell you about
my life so we can compair what has happerned to
us. I have had a big trouble feeling I have any
human rights. I have many things I want to tell
you. Thanks Frank G
[email protected]
 
Welcome Frank G
You certainly are not alone here. Check out the topic WHAT'S YOUR STORY?

Also check out the SURVIVOR STORIES.

Sorry for the pain that brings you here, but know that you are not alone here..
Click on the envelope with the figures at the top of each post.
 
Hi,
This is my first post. I just found this site.
I have a severe problem. In the past I was sexualily abused by my own mother. I feel totally
alone. Even though this was years ago it troubles
me every day. I don't feel I have a right to call
myself human. I hope I can find another man who had the same thing happen to him, so that we can
talk.
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Frank, this, in fact your whole post, could have been my first one, word for word.

As you are already hearing from other men, you have come to a very good place to deal with the very horrible things that happened to you.

Of course these living nightmares still haunt you. That's just one of many proofs that you are human. And you are not alone. There are many good men, real survivors like yourself, you can talk to here in safety.

I fear any others may be dead or in prison. Is their another incest victem out there somewhere? If so please mail me, or leave a mesage
here. Thanks Frank G.
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Prison? Been there, done that, tho only briefly.

Dead. Close or should have been, more than once.

But hey I'm a survivor. So are you.

If you want to read more pieces of my story and that of other male survivors here just follow these links:

https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=001026#000000

https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=001015#000004

https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=001078#000006

https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=001131#000005

https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=001577#000003

https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=001719#000000

https://www.malesurvivor.org/cgi-local/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=1;t=001719#000000

Take care Frank. Feel free to PM me if you want, by clicking the icon of the envelope with two people on it up at the top of this post.

Victor
 
"This is my first post. I just found this site.
I have a severe problem. In the past I was sexualily abused by my own mother. I feel totally alone."

Frank;
Like you, I just found this site a little over a week ago and was also sexualized by my own mother, then later by counselors who I tried to get an explanation from.
After 47 years, I am still living in total agony trying to get the attention the rest of the people recieve for their problems; and not get more.
Have you been in counseling yet?

Quote: "In these times of economic uncertianty, it's easy to see who is dedicated to providing health care, and who is in it for the money."
Tom S.
 
Frank,

Thank you for your post. It brought some things in focus for me.

Do you mind if I email you at the address you provided SP?

Thank you,
Freedom.
 
Frank,

You are certainly not alone. I was sexually abused by my mother. There are more of us than you would think. Often abuse by one's mother is not so obvious. It's more often subtle or covert. I washed my mother's back while she bathed, helped her adjust her girdle, teased her hair, examined her appendectomy scar, "icky" kissed as a small boy. She also inseted her fingers in my rectum when she bathed me.

There's a lot to sort out. This is a great place to find support, healing, resources.

Let me know how I can help you further.

JM
 
Frank,

You're in the right place. I recently told my mother to leave me alone. After 47 years of dealing with her shit, I finally feel I have moved beyond being a victim, if ever so slightly,of her.Read my post, cutting the cord.You are not alone.

Take Care,
Johnshea
 
Frank,

You are human. She was the monster. I was abused by my mother too. I felt like I could never be a part of human society. I have spent much of my life being unnoticeable, never succeeding or screwing up enough to draw attention.

A couple of years ago when there were various hostage situations around the world I heard an analyst on the radio describing survival strategies for living through hostage situations. The guy talked about being the gray man, not drawing attention to oneself, blending in with the group so as not to be singled out.

That's what I've been doing my whole life, being the gray man. I thought anything that was inside me was filthy, so I just say what other people say.

You are not alone, whatever your experience was with your mother, you can name it here, and other men will listen. I just found this site a little while ago, too. It's a powerful place.

--Ken
 
A couple of years ago when there were various hostage situations around the world I heard an analyst on the radio describing survival strategies for living through hostage situations. The guy talked about being the gray man, not drawing attention to oneself, blending in with the group so as not to be singled out.

That's what I've been doing my whole life, being the gray man. I thought anything that was inside me was filthy, so I just say what other people say.
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Wow, Ken, that's quite an analogy out of your experience. It makes me think that yes that's what
we often tend to do, as a survival mechanism, when
we are hostages, to our perps, to a society that says don't talk about this.

To break the chains of our perps & live our own lives as our true selves, to shout out to an uncaring society until those who do or will care come forward to stand with us--that's what brings
out our true colors, so that we can shine, and make a difference in the world.

High risk, high reward. But I've found being a
"gray man" is high risk anyway, and low reward, kinda dull & empty.

For you, for me, for all of us male survivors, this is a powerful place where we can polish up & start to shine! :cool:

Victor
 
Frank
You are, indeed, not alone. I was abused by my mother - (age 0 to 6) and recovered the memory of it many years later. I lived with my symptoms for many years without understanding them. I though I was a "freak of nature". I thought I was the only one in the world who did not trust or love his mother.

It is hard to understand why any parent would betray the trust and protection that we need to grow up. Most find it even harder to believe that a mother would do that. In my mother's case, she had been abused herself as a child by her father.

I would be glad to talk with you about my experiences if that would help. email me by PM (personal message) or at [email protected] - you could also do a search for my posts where I have talked about my abuse experience and symptoms.

I'm so glad you found this place. The guys here are so great and we are such great support for eachother. It is so healing to get your story out and see that you are not the only one to have received such a trauma.

I'm sorry for what happened to you. Come often and explore the site - take it only as far as you feel comfortable. Take care brother...Thad
 
Originally posted by Wuamei:

But I've found being a "gray man" is high risk anyway, and low reward, kinda dull & empty.
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Yeah...low reward is a good description.


To break the chains of our perps & live our own lives as our true selves, to shout out to an uncaring society until those who do or will care come forward to stand with us--that's what brings
out our true colors, so that we can shine, and make a difference in the world.

Victor
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I guess that's the task ahead, to break the habit of half a lifetime. Thanks, Victor, your words define a positve course of action. This helps me look to the future, instead of always criticising my past.

--Ken
 
Ken,

For sure looking to the future, and living in the now, instead of looking back & criticizing & getting hung up on the past, is easier said than done. But it does help to at least plot a course & have some plans & support along the way. It also helps to take it easy on ourselves & take it slow. As you say we are trying to break old unhealthy lifetime habits & form new healthy ones.
The bad ones didn't form overnite. Neither will the good ones to replace them. One day at a time.
Take care Ken.

Victor


Victor
 
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