Is anyone else in here triggered by decisions?

[LupinIII]

In the last few days I have been put in a position of making a somewhat major decision. My current job is somewhat safe but doesn't make a lot of money for a sales position. It looks like I am going to be offered my old job back and that is a place where I can make a lot of money, but be in a wacky environment. I can see both sides of the issue (avoiding crziness vs hey craziness is all around us and I shouldn't let it get in my way).

This decision has been a major trigger for me...shit, today I am this close to just shutting down emotionally. Does anyone else get triggered by decisions? What do you do? I tried the pros/cons thing but because I can see both sides my lists didn't help. I am really getting overwhelmed by my emotions and innability to choose what is best..or even choose at all. It seems like decisions always set me off? Why is that? Is there a good way to deal with this problem?

P.S. I suppose I should mention that i feel like I am falling apart. I am too close to saying f-it and crawling into bed for a few months. Besides the fact that I need to support my family I don't want my daughter seeing her dad depressed in bed every day.

 

[outis]

Lupin,

You've heard, "If you choose not to decide you still have made a choice." Well, you have. You've chosen that you're not going to fail your family or let your daughter see you depressed in bed every day.

Instead of just listing pros and cons, how about listing what makes each a benefit or a burden? It might help clarify what you really need/want at this point.

How long will you have to decide? Will you have time to get some input from trusted people who know the whole situation with each job? Sometimes getting another viewpoint is all you need to see more clearly.

Thanks,

Joe

 

[crisispoint]

Lupin,

Yes, decisions have an important effect on my stability, so I Guess you can say they "trigger" me. On the other hand, making them is away of keeping the power in your hand.

I have a big one (actually, a series of them) to make. One of them is that, in the midst of my mental tidal wave, I got a job offer in Japan. Do I take it when I'm this close to going mental or not?

But I will make that decision.

You've already made one. Not to give up. Not to give in. That speaks volumes about you, my friend.

I'm here if you need me.

Peace and love,

Scot

 

[MrDon]

I have my favorite places that I go when I really need to make a decision and need clarity in what to do. For me this is on the Ocean or at a local park. But in those places, I can normally get to a place that gives me some clarity and helps me see what my gut instincts are.

When you are in the middle of chaos, it is not easy to figure everything out. If you can escape the chaos for a brief moment, sometimes things get clearer.

Don