Invisible Male Victims
Jacob S
Registrant
This comment I made in another forum about surviving r*pe was deleted because I'm not a woman.
As I have "firsthand experience with the issues being discussed" I think I have insight into the male vs. female predatory behavior being discussed. "Toxic masculinity" is indeed the issue, but part of the problem with toxic masculinity is that it teaches males that all sex is good sex as long as the male is the penetrator instead of the penetrated. If you look at court sentences, public opinion, movies, and the opinion of many people, a grown woman grooming and molesting a boy is considered much less serious of a crime.
There are not enough reliable statistics in our current culture to say whether women are less predatory, because men are conditioned to not admit that they felt uncomfortable or violated.
Society is more permissible of men being sleazy in public, definitely. But the other side of that very same coin is that society assumes males always want sex, which means that males who are the victims of female predators are not allowed to think of themselves as having their bodily autonomy be violated.
As I have "firsthand experience with the issues being discussed" I think I have insight into the male vs. female predatory behavior being discussed. "Toxic masculinity" is indeed the issue, but part of the problem with toxic masculinity is that it teaches males that all sex is good sex as long as the male is the penetrator instead of the penetrated. If you look at court sentences, public opinion, movies, and the opinion of many people, a grown woman grooming and molesting a boy is considered much less serious of a crime.
There are not enough reliable statistics in our current culture to say whether women are less predatory, because men are conditioned to not admit that they felt uncomfortable or violated.
Society is more permissible of men being sleazy in public, definitely. But the other side of that very same coin is that society assumes males always want sex, which means that males who are the victims of female predators are not allowed to think of themselves as having their bodily autonomy be violated.