I'm glad your wife is supportive with everything you are going through. I have a close relative, my favorite aunt, with whom I need to discuss my rape in college. She knows about the PTSD, therapy, and something else that's big, which requires some explanation. I think, how is she going to feel when I tell her, even if it's just enough? As for how I feel, can she know how a man finds value in protecting himself and others? What a worthless feeling when that is stripped away. This is only one issue we have. Nevertheless, the female therapists I have had, viscerally understand rape better than did the male ones. I know my aunt will look at me differently, the cost of her support. Yes, she will look at who I am, because I won't being hiding it from her anymore.