In need of advice

[Ash]

I am in a relationship with a male survivor. We have been together for almost three years and i just recently(within the last 8 months) found out about the abuse he endured as a child. His father sexually abused him and his sister from the ages of five to about 10. His father still contacts him, which makes things even harder. I do not know where to turn or how to help him. If anyone is dealing with anything similar, please help me. I love him very much and want to help him begin recovering from this.

 

[Shelby]

Hi Ash,

I am in a similar sitution, I just found out two months ago that my husband was sexually abused when he was about 10. I found out about it by accident and since he has told me, we have been having a lot of problems. I told him that he needed to go to counseling and he has gone a couple of times but I still think he is avoiding the issue which is making it harder on our relationship. If your boyfriend would consider counseling and perhaps the two of you going together might help. Good Luck

 

[Carl123]

Hello Shelby and Ash;

I ama make survivor of childhood sexual abuse.I have been married for over 12 years and would be happy to address any questions you might have aboutmy expereince that might help you to better understand and help your loved ones. Please send me your E-mail and I'll respond.

[This message has been edited by Carl123 (edited 11-30-2000).]

 

[Ash]

Carl 123...If you read this I would really appreciate talking to you. Let me know how I can E-Mail you. Thanks Ash

 

[Rob]

If you need help understanding anything you can e-mail me also.([email protected])

 

[Neil]

Ash, I'd be happy to help as well. I am not a professional and can only speak of my own personal experiences but I would be glad to answer any questions you have.([email protected])