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The Lone Wolf

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I called a T and got an appointment, it's not until the 30th. I'm not sure if they specialize in CSA but I actually met them a few months ago and after talking with them for a few minutes I felt comfortable with them.

I tried to get an appointment with them a few months ago but they weren't available. I called my work benefits # to get a referral with someone else but after talking to the people they referred, I felt like I couldn't trust them. So I decided to wait it out, hopefully it will be worth it.

This is not the first time I've been thought this. When I was young it was "suggested" to my parents by my school that I see one. I only went once, never really understood why they wanted me to go in the first place. All I did was write one page about my daily routine and all the crap I had to put up with at school, and they send me off to a councelor.

I went once on my own a few years ago, I was having trouble dealing with a bad breakup, especially because I work with her(and still do). I only went once, I went on a whim. There was just something about the guy that just errked me that wrong way. He wanted to talk more about my family than my ex. For the longest time I thought that was odd, but not I think he might of picked up on something that I'm only realizing now.

I'm anxious to get this over with, it seems like it so far away. I want to get started now, but that's thier only available date. Perhaps patience will be a virtue. I'm also a little freaked out. Usually when I commit myself to something I at least have a good idea about how things will play out. Right now I have no clue, it scares me, I feel like I don't have control over this.

I have this overwhelming fear that they will see me as mentally unsound and have me locked up. I know that sounds like crazy talk, but there was a time when certain people believed I was suicial and tried to have me locked up.
 
TLW - Try not to get too worked up about it, worrying won't help. Keep in mind that these people help other people for a living. Best of luck to you and congratulations on having the courage to follow through. I'll be thinking about you on the 30th - Peace - John
 
Lone Wolf,

Four weeks is a long time to wait, and I'm so glad you are lined up to see someone. A therapist's job is to help you get through your issues with the minimum of trauma and pain, and in order to do that he/she has to get to know you and earn your trust. At first there will probably be at least a few sessions - and perhaps many - in which the issue of abuse won't even come up. The T will want to make sure you don't feel rushed into things you are not comfortable with yet.

It's absolutely normal to be apprehensive about therapy at first. The T will of course want you to move forward (at your own pace), and that is likely to get you into areas that you don't anticipate now or are fearful about. That's why a good T will want to gain your trust first. How can you work with a guide when you are not yet sure the guide knows the way?

I also think it's normal to be fearful of things like therapy, medication and so on. It took me a long time to get help for depression because of these fears, though now I look back and wonder what was I afraid of. Hindsight is 20/20!

Much love,
Larry
 
go with your gut which is what it sounds like you've done in the past anyway. if you initially feel erked by the therapist they're probably not right. the first therapist I went to listened to my story and when I was finished paused for a few minutes, flipped through the diagnostic manual of mental disorders and labeled me as suffering from PTSD. While his diagnosis was right, I was disturbed by being instantly labeled and categorized rather than talked to as a human being. I then came to this site and found a much better referral. good luck.
 
Larry is so correct about how a "T" should relate to you, his client. Getting to know you should be his first goal. Mine gave me a couple of personality tests to take and after he looked the results over we met again and simply discussed the results. We would look at certain results and he would describe to me how I looked at certain issues in my life. It was like he could read me like a book. I commented on that and he smiled and said over the years he'd become quite familiar with the various personality types and how they looked at life. It was uncanny but intriguing. He gained my trust that he wasn't going to be critical of me, built me up and complimented my strong points etc. He just had a way of putting me at ease while discussing the results of the personality testing. It was great.

After gaining your trust he can then begin to work with you on your particular issue.

Each person is different and needs to be understood as such. That he is an individual rather than a contributer to the therapists pocket book. Makes all the difference in the world.

I hope this T works out well for you. I'll be sending good thought your way as the days pass till the appointment.

Keep us posted Friend.

John
 
My T was quite innovative, he asked me write a story about myself, may be because he knew I am a writer. But the most wonderful thing was that I started writing, all the different voices in my head gradually dissappeared as those nightmares got released on to paper. That has been BY FAR my most successful therapy session.
 
Morning Star,

What a great idea, and I'm so glad it worked for you. Lone Wolf, as you can see, a good T will try to find ways to help you that are good for YOU, like MS's T has done. You will be fine bro.

Much love,
Larry
 
I've been thinking when I do go I will give them the web address to a personal blog I write in from time to time. I havn't written about my abuse in it yet, not sure if I want to or not. I figure it may help them get a little insight on what goes on my head and everyday life.

I'm thinking about writing about my threapy experiences. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or not.
 
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