I'm sorry folks...

I'm sorry folks...
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onefastbike

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I feel like I stormed in here on the weekend, posted a bunch of stuff since, but not really contributed to anyones topics other than my own.
I'm sorry if it seems self-centered or self serving. I am barely able to get a grasp on my own thoughts right now, and I feel grossly inadequate when it comes to giving any sort of advice right now (unless you were asking a mechanical or martail arts question).

Again.. I'm sorry for not contributing more...

Ken
 
Hey Ken, I did the same thing. Started about a month ago. Now I just try to read posts and get what I can out of it and comment when I feel the impulse. Mostly I contribute by writing poetry, something I never took serious until the last couple weeks. I find that it helps me get things from my mind and into something I can read. Most of the time I realize after I read it back, what I was feeling or why I was writing it. I'm no poet but it has been pretty theraputic. Sometimes I feel bad for not doing more too. but hell.....ya gotta start somewhere right?
 
Ken,

Do what is most comfortable for you and what you need to do. You are welcome here and these guys are the greatest.

You did fine.

Peace,

Marc
 
there is not some scorecard, as to how much you post and how much you reply here. I think it would be true for most people here, I gain insight from people responding to me; BUT, I also learn from people's responses to others, and the actual posts of others.

My normal 'routine' here is to come one or two times a week, respond to as many posts I can, and post maybe one or two things myself, then go away again. In recent weeks, I have not been here even enough to do that. I don't think other people hold it against me, as me doing wrong, to not been here so much recently.

we all 'give and take' here. It may not seem equal right now, but it does equal out in the 'long run'. Honest. And remember, healing is not a race. Or, if it is, it is a long one, and in the end, only against yourself.

Good luck to you.

Leosha
 
We all do what we need to do here. Sometimes we need to post and get feedback. Sometimes we need to just read. Sometimes we need to reply to others. And sometimes we need to spend some time away.

The feeling of no pressure here is what makes this such a place of support.

Glad you are with us.

-Sean
 
I post quite a bit but that's just my thing. I guess I'm exploring out loud and wanting the feedback.

I guess I'm going through a period right now when I don't panic a lot for which I am very grateful but that is not always the case. I have gotten very down and negative sometimes and this is one of the two places I feel safe enough to talk about it.

What I like best is being among other male survivors. I am confident that whatever I post here it will be heard with generous hearts and open and understanding minds.

I try to help when I can by talking about myself in reference to the topic of the thread. Sometimes I suppose that helps but it certainly helps for me to say something and be heard.

Sometimes I get off the topic of a thread, a little or a lot, and sometimes I get pretty wordy (like this time, again) but I have never been reproached for that or anything else. Its been the opposite in fact. Lots of support and love.
 
Ken,

First off, I feel badly that i didn't introduce myself to you and say "hi." I'm truly sorry for what happened to you, but the people here are the greatest and they truly understand what you're going through.

Now, don't feel adly about doing what you need to do to get by. We're all struggling to get by, you know? But you're doing fine.

I believe that this place is a gigantic "pay it forward" area. When you feel you can, help someone else through a rough patch. Not every single time (my case with you, for example :rolleyes: ), but offer support to someone who needs the help.

Sometimes, I may help you. When the time arises, help someone else. Nobody keeps a scorecard, like Leo said. If you can't do it. Fine. You take what you need. When you CAN do it, it's like the Talmudic verse, "he who saves one life, saves the world entire."

You've just started down the path. Take what you need to keep on going. :D

Peace and love,

Scot
 
Hey Ken,

You are contributing a lot. By posting your concerns, your pains, and your thoughts you are providing insight for a lot of people. For the ones that have the same concern/pains/thoughts of you are benefiting from it. The lurkers are benefiting. The people that respond are benefiting from it. I gained a lot of insight into myself posting responses to other's posts.

Keep posting, or replying, or reading, and definately moving forward.

Take care and thanks,
Bill
 
Ken,

You do help. Everytime you post about something painful, it can help someone else recognize our own pain is real. Everytime you post about something hopeful, it stays here to give readers hope long after you move on to other concerns. Everytime you post something funny, it shows people that recovery is not all traumatic memories and terrifying flashbacks. Everytime you post something mundane, it proves that "Life goes on."

I like Bill's mention of the lurkers. I was a lurker for months. If not for the things I saw other guys sharing, I never would have found the courage to speak up. None of us ever knows how many people we help when we put something here.

Thanks,

Joe
 
Hey Ken,
I'm new here myself and do not know what to do or what to wait for as well. I think at first we just wait for a reaction and need to read what others will say but, we are all here for the same reasons, to get support and you will do well. I hope to be helpful myself especially since I'll be leading an important group starting next weekend and representing an important organization Which I belong to called SNAP. I hope to represent them well. we are all here for each other Ken your doing great. keep it going. :)
 
Don't feel like you have to post. We are here to help each other. Part of that means that you go at your own pace. Only do what you are able to do right now. Help someone later when you get the chance and feel up to it.
:)
 
Ken,

That's the good thing about this place and the postings. Whenever a question is posed it helps other people deal with their similar issues too. Please don't feel like you have to apologize, everyone has been there at one time or another. Keep reading, post when you want to, respond when you want to or feel that you can help.

Now, about getting a little more top end out of my Buell.....

Take care of yourself,

Steve
 
Ken
when we start dealing with this crap we all feel the urge to get on the 'rev-limiter', but just remember that the twistgrip hasn't got to be screwed all the way round all the time !

Dave
 
Ken - we all come here for healing...whatever is best for you is best for all of us in the long run!

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Ken - by that I mean if you start to heal, then you can help to heal others!

best wishes again...Rik
 
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