i'm not sure what to say

i'm not sure what to say
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Denny

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hello i'm new here
i read some of the other postings here and it seems like an ok place. ive never done anything like this before. i never told anyone or talked about it before. so i'm not sure what to say.
denny
 
Denny,

Welcome to the site. There's a lot going on here and so much to benefit from; I'm sure you will find it very helpful.

It's often difficult for a new guy to know what to say or how to start. Just remember that the primary concern here is that you should feel safe. Just ease into the site and get used to what's going on. When you post and what you say is entirely up to you. Just know that you will be supported and understood here.

Much love,
Larry
 
Hey Denny, don't be afraid, this is a good place. I'm sorry it happened to you, I wish it didn't. I'm glad you're here talking about it, this place will help...

Jay
 
Hey Denny

I just wanted to welcome you to male survivor

I first came here a few months ago. It took me ages of reading all the posts here before I got the nerve to put on my first post.

This place is full of supportive and caring people. I hope it helps you as much as its helped me.

Take care

Craig
 
denny ppl here r realy nice
u can say what ur thinking
about and nobody yells at u
or makes u feel bad
 
Denny,
Just putting that one sentence down was scary wasn't it? It was a very important first step.
What happened to you was terrible. It wasn't your fault. You will be heard here and understood. We've all been where you are right now. It's scary. As you type something then hit enter, your heart is pounding. It's OK. Let it out as you want to or need to.
Welcome
Paul
 
thanks everyone.
yes it was scary and i was afraid to come back
here and see what responses i got. but i'm glad i did now theyre all nice ones.
but im not sure i should stay, i feel guilty talking here about this. you said it wasn't my fault but it was.
 
Denny,

I read and responded to your post about your stepfather on another thread. I hope that helps.

Just let me say here that when a boy's confidence and esteem have been destroyed it's possible to make him do almost anything. It's also possible to make him think it's all his fault, and predators are very good at that. After all, they need their victims to think like that so they can keep things going.

The bottom line is a sentence you will see here a lot: It is never the boy's fault. This isn't being PC; it really is the truth.

I hope you will stay and talk about this further. I think the discussion would help you a lot.

Much love,
Larry
 
thank you sir for the message i saw your reply and i replied to your reply. i admit i feel crazy nervous writing all this on here but i'm making myself do it. i feel so terrible on the inside all the time. someone said it would be good to get it out, so i'm trying. thank you again.
 
Denny,

On talking, what you are doing is discovering that you aren't alone and no one can keep you silent anymore. Those are first steps, but very big ones.

Much love,
Larry
 
Welcome Denny. You are doing fine here. No rush, just say what you feel you can. It gets easier. It took me 30 years to say anything about my abuse to anyone.

Dale
 
Welcome to this place Denny, a place that will help you get your life back, it will help you find support and answers for whatever is crippling you in your life.

You might be amazed when you discover the power that you can get back in your life.

I've been here about 9 months now and it's been an amzing journey of self-discovery, I still have a hard time beieving how far I've come. I've had NO regrets about coming here and talking about my past, and I was feeling pretty hopeless when I came here.
 
Denny Welcome to Male Survivor. Sorry you need this place but it can be a great place for HEALING. Take it slow and tell only what you need to. There are many here who where abused by their step-fathers.

Remember that it was never your fault.
Tom
 
Aloha Denny,

This is a safe place. Take it slowly. Talk about things as you feel you have to. I got a lot from just reading here.

For myself, I talk about things here to help me in areas I am confused about.

Lots of nice people here.

Sunny
 
Denny,

I'm very late to this thread. You've received a lot of good support and advise. Just want to say welcome and also say you're in a safe place now. Talk when you find you are able. It will break the stranglehold the abuse has had on you for all these years.

Remember, it was not your fault, and you are a worthwhile and lovable person.

Lots of love,

John
 
i think i was only worthwile and lovable if i did things right. but i read things here and i see normal people and it seems like more and more the way i think about things is different then how it really should be? i'm not sure. i'm sorry if this all sounds confusing and i'm sorry if it sounds like i'm challenging what you all said.
 
Healing from such toxic families is exactly like you say. We discover that "the way i think about things is different". It's like Tarzan being raised by animals and believing that he's an animal. That's how my life has been. It's taken years for me to start to figure out that my family was not normal, that the things I thought were normal weren't. Now that I'm out away from them, it's like getting glasses for the first time and seeing my parents clearly. And you know what? I like it out here. Their crazy "normal" wasn't good at all.
 
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