I will help you!

I will help you!

reality2k4

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That is all I needed to hear as a child, those simple words from any adult who I encountered and trusted in my world.

When I reported my abuse to the cops, I guess that I just waited for those words to come from some adult who would be sent around to help him.

I guess that I did not even know what help I could expect to get, but none at all annoyed me so greatly as a child.

The consequences were great, because my parents threatened my with a psyche doc, and all I knew about them was that they lock kids up for being totally mad.

Maybe I was mad, but I tried my best not to be, and just be who I was supposed to be in a strange world that was tainted.

Every minute of every day, I would be waiting for the perp to carry out his threats on myself or family, constantly on guard.

The hurt of my childhood was pretty much too hard to bear, but mostly it was my own minds reaction to threats against myself and my family, and the constant reminder of the abuse.

I carried the guilt of not being able to recognise him from all the photos, the cops shown me, but to a little boy who is looking at those, he is thinking, 'how many bad men are out there'.

He made me think just how weak I was as a little boy who could not fight back.
I guess I would have fought him if he did not have a weapon, who knows?

I guess that maybe I owe my life to a stranger, who rescued me, and someone I will never know.
But, it is a pity that the stranger did not grab the perp at the time.

I was the guilty partner all along, even though I had no guilt, but I thought of all the other boys the perp would get, or even come back on me for telling on him.

I wish I knew he was dead, and where his grave was, just to know the world is that much safer because he is dead, but I dont even have the disclosure of knowing that,

ste
 
Ste, I know what you mean. It is almost like I am still waiting for someone to tell me "I will help you." Especially when times get tough, I feel like I am owed something and I know that is not right, but I think that is the abused child in me still waiting and wanting someone to pick me up and say everything is going to be okay, it was not your fault, I will not let him hurt you again, but I never got that from anyone.

I feel you on this one Ste, great post, thanks for sharing it with us.
 
Ste,

Hearing those words is important to a kid - if the adult is a safe one. He needs to know not only that he will now be helped, but also - and just as importantly - that he is WORTH helping.

Much love,
Larry
 
Ste, I never told anyone when I was a child, so no one ever offered help because they didn't know! I think everyone just thought my hormones were going berserk!

Since I have asked for help though, it has come from everywhere - I just don't always know how to accept it! Others just don't know how best to offer it!

It's just a shame that some of those in the best position to put things right, are the ones that get it most wrong (the legal side of things).

Best wishes ...Rik
 
Thanks guys,

I am putting together documents for the judiciary to read, and will be sending them to the house of Lords for the Law Lords to peruse.

The documents relate to abused kids, and how much they can be marginalised in the system.
It relates to how they are mistreated within the Law, as they are never seen as a victim of life.

I worked for years on a steering group for lobbying MPs, but guess what!
They just dont listen!

The Rowntree trust has already set up some guidelines on how to treat young offenders who may have been abused.

This was after a number of young ppl took their own lives in institutions which should be the last port of call in sentencing a youth to custody without background knowledge.

If one person can save at least one life in his existence then he can say he did not walk on by.
I guess its one thing my father taught me,

ste
 
Originally posted by reality2k4:
If one person can save at least one life in his existence then he can say he did not walk on by.
I guess its one thing my father taught me,

ste
"Whoever has created
An abiding friendship,
Or has won
A true and loving wife,
All who can call at least one soul theirs,
Join in our song of praise."

L. van Beethoven, from "Ode to Joy"
 
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