I took a break from here. Trying to find balance.

I took a break from here. Trying to find balance.
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Em

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I took a little break from reading and contributing posts here. I felt like I needed a break. I'm trying to find a balance in my life between being a survivor and just being me. I'm learning that I have to being a survivor is part of just being me, and I need to incorporate the two. Being a survivor isn't who I am, only one part of me, and one big part of my story, not the only part and maybe someday the most significant.

I wonder if others have experienced this, and what that experience was.
 
It's funny to see your post, we talked about the in my SA group tonight.I think most people feel they way you do.

I find that i make it part of my daily routine right now because i am not working but i can see when i get back to work that i will do the same as you.
 
My T has told me this--that eventually I will be able to see survivorship as just a part of who I am.

For the time being what happened to me and finding ways of dealing with it and recovering from the effects are a big part of my life.

Already, however, I see the progress I have made towards a balanced view of who I am. I see it now as inevitable and look forward to it.
 
That's sort of what I've been going through too. I've decided that I've let the abuse define me for too long in my life. It is in the past and there is not a thing that I could ever do to change it after the fact. It is a part of me and always will be but it's significance is diminishing. I want to live in the moment, plan for my future and not let the past rule my life anymore.

Take good care of yourself,

Steve
 
Em,

We are not only surviving, but we should also be living. Be getting out and doing something you enjoy, this really improves your mental attitude. Being around people, improving your people skills. Our lives are not about the SA that happened to us, it is about living our lives. We work on our SA issues to improve the life we are living. Not living to work on our SA issues.

Go out have some good times. Be you, rediscover yourself. Address the issues as they come up, and don't worry over them.

Take care,
Bill
 
Thanks for the replies. Glad to confirm that this is normal. I feel like I am ready to put being a survivor in a different place. It's part of who I am, and a part that I will continue to work at, but the other parts of who I am need to be given time as well.

Also thanks for making sense of my original post. I was really tired when I wrote it and it hardly makes any sense. Thanks for figuring it out.

thanks guys,

Em
 
I think the 'balance' is a very healthy thing. You phrased it right, that being a survivor, that is not what we are. It is only part of who we are. It is not all of us.

I use to come here almost every day. In the last few months, it has been more like two or three times a week (although when I do come, I try to respond as much as I can). Again, like you say, there is more in my life then being a survivor. BUT, it took like 6 or 7 months of starting to work through this that I could back off it some. And still, I have flashbacks or panic of some sort almost every day. So I know that I am still needing to work at it.

I am hoping that your 'balance' is going well for you, and you are rediscovering part of who you are.

Leosha
 
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