I Told
I finally got up the nerve to tell my wife about my abuse. I had told my wife before we were married that I had been sexually abused. Throughout our marriage, my wife has told me that some day I would need to tell her about it. In fact, she was a little hurt that I was unwilling to share this part of my life with her.
Several days ago she asked me what was bothering me and I said that I was ready to tell her whenever she was ready to hear it. Three days later she told me that she was really freaked out about my announcement and had been worrying that something was really wrong with me. I told her that that nothing was wrong but that I was ready to share the intimate details about my abuse. She started crying and said she didn't want to know the intimate details and that she was extremely upset because she felt the same way she would if one of our children was abused. That totally blew me away. My wife and I have a fantastic relationship and love each other very much, but I really expected a "get over it" response. She later asked for a few details about the magnitude of the abuse, but, at least for now, doesn't want details.
It was such a relief to tell her and to get the response that I got. Unfortunately, I now have this strong desire to share this with everyone. I think I will keep the details with only a very few people (you guys included). They say "confession is good for the soul" I now truly believe it
Several days ago she asked me what was bothering me and I said that I was ready to tell her whenever she was ready to hear it. Three days later she told me that she was really freaked out about my announcement and had been worrying that something was really wrong with me. I told her that that nothing was wrong but that I was ready to share the intimate details about my abuse. She started crying and said she didn't want to know the intimate details and that she was extremely upset because she felt the same way she would if one of our children was abused. That totally blew me away. My wife and I have a fantastic relationship and love each other very much, but I really expected a "get over it" response. She later asked for a few details about the magnitude of the abuse, but, at least for now, doesn't want details.
It was such a relief to tell her and to get the response that I got. Unfortunately, I now have this strong desire to share this with everyone. I think I will keep the details with only a very few people (you guys included). They say "confession is good for the soul" I now truly believe it
