I think all survivors struggle with this

[Tryingtolive]

Self care
Self love
Self acceptance

I realized having self care all reflects back to your confidence.
If you lack confidence you probably don't have self care.
This is a major problem with me.

Having self love means your okay with who you are.
No one can effect you only yourself.
That's a major problem for me.

Self acceptance knowing your different but your happy with who you are.
Self scceptance leads to a better life.
Self acceptance is the hardest thing as a survivor I believe


My goal is try practicing all three of these things.
Not to get side tracked.
Very hard task to take on but it is a must for someone struggling

 

[SmartShadow]

Self acceptance knowing your different but your happy with who you are.
Self acceptance leads to a better life.
Self acceptance is the hardest thing as a survivor I believe

Yes! This is so true. This is the one of the best thing you can do to heal I believe. So very well stated.

 

[Hoping4Peace]

Thanks I needed that... I sometimes stand back and look at my life and all that I have accomplished and it truly amazes me... because on a day to day basis I am just an insecure man/ boy inside, with many dreams and hopes but feeling broken and handicapped by the pain of abuse, and always being pulled and attracted by men and porn etc, it is a constant struggle. But somehow the real me must be manifesting itself through the fog.... I have a wonderful wife of 37 years, four wonderful children, six grandkids, and a working farm and even a professional life that was quite successful... so I suppose that even if you have a hard time loving yourself, it can be amazing that your love for others can accomplish and can get you through. I need to pause and give myself a hug I suppose, because I realize at this moment that I am a pretty special person after all! But for the Grace of God and the love of my family, I think I would have lost my footing and drowned in this flood that pulls at my legs daily.

 

[kcinohio]

Great topic.

For self care, I find good routines are good. If I get into the habit of it, then I can just do self care tasks with both ups and downs in terms of how I'm feeling about myself.

Self-acceptance comes and goes. But, overall it is decent. Took years to get there though.

Self love - it is easier when I make it an action - when I take on loving action for myself. The feeling of it is then more of an aftereffect. Only way I've found to build that when at low points.