I need help and advice and support and just everything (HEAVY TRIGGERS)
I have been a member of this place for many months, reading so many stories, and yet this is my first post.
I am 32, and I was a victim when I was 14. My abuser was a female, and not just that but she was also my teacher. The TRIGGER that brought all of these memories back in my mind AGAIN was because of a teacher in ohio who had sex with her 15 year old student, and as we all know these kinds of stories just keep happening.
The story of this teacher in Ohio happened earlier this year, around the same time that I got married. My wedding got fucked up because of the memories that entered my brain, and sadly our honeymoon got fucked up because of those same memories. ITS LIKE MY TEACHER FROM 18 YEARS AGO STILL HAS CONTROL!!!!
A few months ago and I found a couple old friends from my old Jr High class on facebook, I also found my previous teacher from when I was 13. I asked about HER and to see anybody knew about HER, and one of my old friends told me that she was still good friends with HER and gave me HER new last name and gave me a link to her facebook page. I DID NOT LOOK!!! In fact I did the opposite and unfriended/blocked everybody that I found from my Jr High class.
Sometimes I want to report HER but most of the times I dont. I was 14, I had no friends, my mom was going from one guy to another, I had a speech problem that kids made fun of, I had an acne problem that kids made fun of. But I had a teacher who liked me and watched over me and loved me, and I loved her for taking of me and not making fun of me, and later on the sexual stuff happened and the sex happened. I only knew her for the 1 year, I never did see her again after that. her younger brother played high school football, so I am sure she was in her early 20's jut like this Ohio teacher.
And yet sometimes I still consider myself lucky for having this wonderful little secret that my other friends didn't have. They made fun of me, but I had something they didn't have. STUPID HUH!?!?!?
Sorry for rambling. I am going to post this and just look for replies later.
I am 32, and I was a victim when I was 14. My abuser was a female, and not just that but she was also my teacher. The TRIGGER that brought all of these memories back in my mind AGAIN was because of a teacher in ohio who had sex with her 15 year old student, and as we all know these kinds of stories just keep happening.
The story of this teacher in Ohio happened earlier this year, around the same time that I got married. My wedding got fucked up because of the memories that entered my brain, and sadly our honeymoon got fucked up because of those same memories. ITS LIKE MY TEACHER FROM 18 YEARS AGO STILL HAS CONTROL!!!!
A few months ago and I found a couple old friends from my old Jr High class on facebook, I also found my previous teacher from when I was 13. I asked about HER and to see anybody knew about HER, and one of my old friends told me that she was still good friends with HER and gave me HER new last name and gave me a link to her facebook page. I DID NOT LOOK!!! In fact I did the opposite and unfriended/blocked everybody that I found from my Jr High class.
Sometimes I want to report HER but most of the times I dont. I was 14, I had no friends, my mom was going from one guy to another, I had a speech problem that kids made fun of, I had an acne problem that kids made fun of. But I had a teacher who liked me and watched over me and loved me, and I loved her for taking of me and not making fun of me, and later on the sexual stuff happened and the sex happened. I only knew her for the 1 year, I never did see her again after that. her younger brother played high school football, so I am sure she was in her early 20's jut like this Ohio teacher.
And yet sometimes I still consider myself lucky for having this wonderful little secret that my other friends didn't have. They made fun of me, but I had something they didn't have. STUPID HUH!?!?!?
Sorry for rambling. I am going to post this and just look for replies later.